[TibetanPrincess]

@SyrianPrincess, I feel sorry for you if this is how you think. This is what sparked my need to dive in again but on a more serious note.

@JLove,

I think what Timarie is trying to say, and not in an attacking way (please correct me if I have just put my foot in my damn mouth @Timarie), is that you were obviously insecure about your breasts, but you acted or portrayed that you weren't and people close to you (like your BF) can read that, even if you are disillusioned to think you are not that bothered by it (small chest insecurity). Hence the posts you wrote, (a few back and which I already mildly addressed and you confirmed it.)

I also have noticed this with you and it gets confusing (the little contradictions). Please don't take it like this is intended to attack your character, its just something that pops up alot in your posts.

And her 2nd statement: It seems as though you wear most of your confidence on your chest (giving you potentially false self esteem), rather than wanting to improve your actual self esteem by unsuperficial means. It just seemed the more your boobs grew, the more you loved and appreciated, approved of yourself. Not to say you had 0 love for yourself or 0 self esteem. And confidence is def fine to have more of, it was just the contradicting statements that make one confused and question. Its like you didn't realize how bad it was, the misery over your chest back then, until they grew. And you still say how important it is to have self esteem and love yourself, but you promote it by superficial means instead of it germinating internally without means of superficial methods. Your BF's validation of your superficial accomplishment became your meter to how much your self esteem has risen, meaning by his perspective of you as a woman on the outside instead your esteem rising from your perspective of yourself from within.

Also, as with your BF, you mentioned his respect for you has grown more suddenly and perhaps suspect a willingness to try harder on his end in your relationship, to fight for you if need be, as if your worth went up more than before.

Since I'm on that, I really don't see how a guy could respect a girl more because she has the big boobs to go with her big brain? I feel like you misconstrue the sexual, superficial admiration they have for you as "respect," because 9 out of 10, that's all that it really is, they are just admiring your outside and are willing to give you more time on what you have to say. Are their eyes off your breasts the whole time? Because that's hard for most men. As for your BF, he loves you already so I assume he had respect for you before, I just don't understand why it would be anymore than what he should have for you already.

So that (though off subject of what Timarie's post is talking about) kind of bothered me personally: the generalization of men, because this also sends a message that small breasted women with brains may not be able to get that same respect as a woman with large breasts and a brain; as if they are more superior than them.

If this is not what you meant, can you please clarify? I'd love to know what you mean by: more respected by males because one has both large breasts and a brain to go with it.

So in that case, maybe what I just wrote above IS in correlation with what Timarie was trying to get across, which is, with what you are posting here, the messages you are sending, is going against what most of us are trying to get away from, which is loving ourself for superficial reasons, fixing our superficial imperfections to have self esteem, the approval of a male's perspective of what identifies us as sexy women to be desired, worthy of trying harder for in a relationship... rather than sending the message that knowing we are all the same and worth trying for, in a relationship no matter what our breast size is, even if we are insecure. We grow breasts because its "icing on the cake," we do it for ourselves rather than approval from others,fitting in clothing, for many different little reasons. Sure, we have insecure thoughts about our breasts in general, many of us, but not all of us here. Growing breasts should never be for measurement of our self esteem. Men are insecure too. No one is perfect in the looks dept. I'm tired of seeing girls crying over some jackass, beer gutted, balding, emotional abusive guy who demeans them because they don't have something they desire in a woman. They get suicidal over it. Many of us have been traumatized by our lack there-of (curves) from the past and some of us still carry some of that torment with us.
And this is coming from a woman who is no longer small chested.

Thoughts anyone?
@Timarie, do I need to take my foot out of my mouth? Or have I touched onto what you were saying here?