[Jenniferlove]

@SyrianPrincess, I feel sorry for you if this is how you think. This is what sparked my need to dive in again but on a more serious note.

@JLove,

I think what Timarie is trying to say, and not in an attacking way (please correct me if I have just put my foot in my damn mouth @Timarie), is that you were obviously insecure about your breasts, but you acted or portrayed that you weren't and people close to you (like your BF) can read that, even if you are disillusioned to think you are not that bothered by it (small chest insecurity). Hence the posts you wrote, (a few back and which I already mildly addressed and you confirmed it.)

I also have noticed this with you and it gets confusing (the little contradictions). Please don't take it like this is intended to attack your character, its just something that pops up alot in your posts.

And her 2nd statement: It seems as though you wear most of your confidence on your chest (giving you potentially false self esteem), rather than wanting to improve your actual self esteem by unsuperficial means. It just seemed the more your boobs grew, the more you loved and appreciated, approved of yourself. Not to say you had 0 love for yourself or 0 self esteem. And confidence is def fine to have more of, it was just the contradicting statements that make one confused and question. Its like you didn't realize how bad it was, the misery over your chest back then, until they grew. And you still say how important it is to have self esteem and love yourself, but you promote it by superficial means instead of it germinating internally without means of superficial methods. Your BF's validation of your superficial accomplishment became your meter to how much your self esteem has risen, meaning by his perspective of you as a woman on the outside instead your esteem rising from your perspective of yourself from within.

Also, as with your BF, you mentioned his respect for you has grown more suddenly and perhaps suspect a willingness to try harder on his end in your relationship, to fight for you if need be, as if your worth went up more than before.

Since I'm on that, I really don't see how a guy could respect a girl more because she has the big boobs to go with her big brain? I feel like you misconstrue the sexual, superficial admiration they have for you as "respect," because 9 out of 10, that's all that it really is, they are just admiring your outside and are willing to give you more time on what you have to say. Are their eyes off your breasts the whole time? Because that's hard for most men. As for your BF, he loves you already so I assume he had respect for you before, I just don't understand why it would be anymore than what he should have for you already.

So that (though off subject of what Timarie's post is talking about) kind of bothered me personally: the generalization of men, because this also sends a message that small breasted women with brains may not be able to get that same respect as a woman with large breasts and a brain; as if they are more superior than them.

If this is not what you meant, can you please clarify? I'd love to know what you mean by: more respected by males because one has both large breasts and a brain to go with it.

So in that case, maybe what I just wrote above IS in correlation with what Timarie was trying to get across, which is, with what you are posting here, the messages you are sending, is going against what most of us are trying to get away from, which is loving ourself for superficial reasons, fixing our superficial imperfections to have self esteem, the approval of a male's perspective of what identifies us as sexy women to be desired, worthy of trying harder for in a relationship... rather than sending the message that knowing we are all the same and worth trying for, in a relationship no matter what our breast size is, even if we are insecure. We grow breasts because its "icing on the cake," we do it for ourselves rather than approval from others,fitting in clothing, for many different little reasons. Sure, we have insecure thoughts about our breasts in general, many of us, but not all of us here. Growing breasts should never be for measurement of our self esteem. Men are insecure too. No one is perfect in the looks dept. I'm tired of seeing girls crying over some jackass, beer gutted, balding, emotional abusive guy who demeans them because they don't have something they desire in a woman. They get suicidal over it. Many of us have been traumatized by our lack there-of (curves) from the past and some of us still carry some of that torment with us.
And this is coming from a woman who is no longer small chested.

Thoughts anyone?
@Timarie, do I need to take my foot out of my mouth? Or have I touched onto what you were saying here?

Sorry, I am only able to speed-read these as I don't have much time. I am noticing that some of you are thinking that this post is about me and my personal life only, when really that is not the case. I'm not saying it's not at all, but really, it's more of an observation I've had with extremely small-chested females. I was never extremely small-chested. I have always had a grab. When on the pill (which I was on from let's say 17-27) I was a large B cup/small C. You can get that size looking huge with the right bra.

Like I wrote before, I was in a 10 year relationship where my boob size was never an issue. I find larger boobs erotic and I wanted more of it. Once I found out I could naturally get them it was ON. Just like laser hair removal. Did that and I am thrilled I don't have to shave my legs anymore! Yes, at times I would definitely feel down about them (after my period esp. but that STILL happens).

This is a forum about BOOBS, therefore I narrowed the discussion down to boobs. It's a little sad that you guys are thinking this is all about me when I have said repeatedly it's not. Really, I question everything in life & constantly. I think about everything under the sun, it's just what I do. Worldly issues, psychology, philosophy, etc. I thought I would bring up one of my thoughts, and now it's getting psycho-analyzed as though it's only about me. That's truly not fair.

I think we all get down on ourselves at times, but I have never suffered from extremely low self-esteem. I have always had a lot of attention from guys (and girls, bc as we know females pay attention too), that has never been a problem. I only had one instance in my life where boob size personally affected me and that was when I was cheated on with a huge-chested female. That def confirmed things for me though, I will admit. I have never been told my boobs were small by a guy. It's kind of annoying that I'm having to go so in depth about myself when that was never supposed to be the case. I guess controversial topics cannot be brought up unless we are willing to let the discussion be turned to being about ourselves? What a shame.

All in all, yes, I do think that girls with small chests (very little or no tissue) have a higher chance of self-esteem issues which can in turn affect the quality of their relationships. This is not the case for all relationships OBVIOUSLY, and I hope that maturity & intelligence would outweigh things, but in a world that is bombarded by sex, (natural-looking) plastic surgery which is only on the rise, infidelity and superficiality in general, more and more women are going to feel inferior. That is my opinion.

I also think it's where I live though. I am a city girl and surrounded by perfect 10's. This kind of habitat, if you will, gives me perhaps a skewed reality.