[BabyFace]

I’ve been in a relationship with my high school sweetheart for well over 5 years. We’ve had a very sound relationship through pretty much everything: financial crisis, mental health issues, abusive family members, and loss.

Yes, insecurities impact a relationship greatly. Inferiority complexes are nightmares, regardless if they’re about your body, your abilities, or anything else...

However, if we’re really looking at relationships that “last”...that means change and respect. 

People don’t remain the same. Which means both parties have to have a secure connection within each other. Sexual attraction is important to many relationships (perhaps not so much for asexuals) but if that’s where your foundation is...it’s a weak one. We age. We bloat. We get sick. Beauty fades.

If your partner respects you, they aren’t going to stray simply because someone has an asset you don’t. Respect isn’t tied to who you are physically, but who you are mentally and the abilities you possess. If someone cheats, it doesn’t matter who you are: they will cheat no matter what because they value themselves above all else; they never respected you to begin with. 

I don’t feel inferior. My man loves every inch of my mind and body, and he makes sure I’m aware. I’ve had friends and strangers comment about the way he looks at me, as if his whole world revolves around me. Of course he notices others beauty, but he respects himself (and me!) enough that he doesn’t gawk or make a scene. 

Don’t settle for someone who makes you second guess yourself. Of course people have preferences. We’re human! We have opinions! Something as trivial as breast size shouldn’t be a deal breaker. If it is...consider a partner who’s ready to love you, for you, and has some mental maturity available.