07-12-2015, 06:51 AM
(07-12-2015, 05:06 AM)Alliecat Wrote:eh, i think youre being affected by the stigma I was talking about and either don't realize it or don't want to admit it. the sole reason physical attractiveness exists is to attract other people. you aren't going to marry yourself or have sex with yourself. the changes you want to make to yourself are based off of what society tells you is attractive. that's why you aren't gonna find many forums about people wanting to make their b cup boobs smaller, or how to get more acne, or how to make guys hair fall out faster lol.(03-12-2015, 05:47 PM)Goodwill Wrote: just as kind of a random comment/observation - I see a lot of the phrase "do it for yourself, not for anyone else" when it comes to making physical changes/improving yourself, and this has never made logical sense to me. cus if you think about it, the satisfaction you get from these changes is through OTHER people thinking you look better or whatever.
so in essence you are doing it for other people no matter how you look at it, which is perfectly normal and ok though IMO. I mean everybody has things that they want to change about themselves. I think there is a stigma about wanting to change yourself because people think for some reason it makes you look weak or that you have low self esteem, and that people use this phrase to justify their wanting to alter themselves.
I dunno, I just wish this stigma would go away because I feel there is nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself, as long as you don't obsess over your shortcomings and take time to acknowledge your positive attributes. /randomobservationoff
Satisfaction coming from other people liking the way you look isn't always true, Goodwill. The satisfaction you get from your effort and changes comes from being able to look at yourself in the mirror and see the person that you've always felt like was trapped inside of you and is finally able to be a reality. I said I do it for me and I meant it as exactly that. It's the same reason I practice yoga and eat healthy, because I like the way I look and I like to appreciate my body, as well as feel alive and healthy. I stopped caring how other people like me and my body a long time ago. If someone appreciates the way I look then that's great, but it certainly isn't motivation for NBE, not for me anyway. It might not make sense to you, but that's only your perspective and doesn't necessarily reflect other people's point of view.