[loverstilly]

I'm obviously not a typical male but this might help. I really appreciate it when my wife writes things down for me. She tends to say a lot ...process out load and say things she that aren't well thought out yet or completely accurate. When she writes it, I know at least a little more thought went into it and it carries a little more weight because of that. Also, it lets me ponder it before we talk in person - very important! Texting would be a good start but because texts are usually short and abreviated, I prefer a letter or email. However, if that's a comfortable step for you to take, go for it! I've been married for 23 years and some of our biggest growth spurts started with one of us going outside our comfort zone. The greater the vulnerability (in what you do and SAY), the deeper the intimacy can go. Best of luck to you Loverstilly.

Cute screen name by the way

Hey Kari, I just saw this! Thank you for your very helpful advice great support from everyone on this forum! Yeah I do think you're right, people do get closer the more you reveal, and the more you reveal the more vulnerable you get

Don't mind me asking, and I might sound a bit ignorant on this: so you're a married man of 23 years, but suddenly you want to grow boobs?? I'm completely open about it but I don't understand where you are coming from