17-03-2014, 03:26
My dad used to scream his head off at me for INCREDIBLY STUPID little nothings!! Sometimes it was the beer talking, like the night I put on a pot of water to boil so I could make Lipton noodle soup and he comes out into the kitchen and just starts right in!! "I don't know what you're cooking but it STRINKS!!!!" "It's pot of WATER, dad!!" "I don't care WHAT it is, it STINKS to high heaven!!!!"
But, I'd been the target of his wrath most of my life because NOTHING I could do was good enough for him. No matter HOW hard I tried to please him, I JUST couldn't do it well enough to make him happy, as far as he was concerned!!
One day in the late `80's, XTC put out a new album called, "Lemons And Oranges". On it was a song called, "Hold Me My Daddy". One night, after one of his tantrums, after he went to bed, I copied down the lyrics to that song in my own hand and left them at his place at the kitchen table. The next morning, he read them and we never had another major fight after that!! Over the last 17 or 18 years of his life, he got a BIT pissed at me maybe 3 or 4 more times, but it was NOTHING like the way he USED to do. At his funeral a few years ago, I played a recording of the song. A number of us were crying and I'm not sure I can ever hear it again without tearing up.
Maybe you can write it out for your mom ("Hold Me, My Mommy") and she'll settle down, too.
http://youtu.be/0nQodFegtqo
But, I'd been the target of his wrath most of my life because NOTHING I could do was good enough for him. No matter HOW hard I tried to please him, I JUST couldn't do it well enough to make him happy, as far as he was concerned!!
One day in the late `80's, XTC put out a new album called, "Lemons And Oranges". On it was a song called, "Hold Me My Daddy". One night, after one of his tantrums, after he went to bed, I copied down the lyrics to that song in my own hand and left them at his place at the kitchen table. The next morning, he read them and we never had another major fight after that!! Over the last 17 or 18 years of his life, he got a BIT pissed at me maybe 3 or 4 more times, but it was NOTHING like the way he USED to do. At his funeral a few years ago, I played a recording of the song. A number of us were crying and I'm not sure I can ever hear it again without tearing up.
Maybe you can write it out for your mom ("Hold Me, My Mommy") and she'll settle down, too.
http://youtu.be/0nQodFegtqo