[Anastasia916]

Okay I'm gonna be very frank here, I know everyone else is thinking it but too scared to say it, but I feel it needs said. Please go to counseling! I am definitely NOT saying this to be mean, not at all. But from everything you said, it appears you have no self esteem and are determined to change these things eventhough you have seen there is no real way and I feel it can be unhealthy! I have a genuine interest in psychology and I have read many books on it, these things you are obsessing over at unhealthy, you could become suicidal and ultimately if you try to "fix" things about you that are not fixable, you can permanently screw yourself and the outcome will be much worse, or you can kill yourself trying to do these things. Narrowing the ribs? That is just crazy, your ribs are the size they are so your lungs are protected underneath them, if there was a way to narrow them, your lungs would not be able to expand the way they need to for a healthy life and it could cause death. I'm no doctor but this is common sense. Now I do not want you to think I am attacking you, but sometimes we do not realize our goals are unrealistic and that we need help, we need someone else to tell us. I have been in this situation where I needed someone else to tell me I needed help, but not the same as your situation... growing up and in my young teens and preteens I went through some things and lost all sense of myself. I became distant, emotionless, suicidal, etc. And I didn't realize how I was and that I needed help till a very good friend got in my face about it and told me straight up to go to counseling. I went to a psychologist and I believe that saved me. Now I'm grown and a much better person, don't you want that for yourself? Do yourself a favor and just go talk to someone about these issues, it will make you feel 100 times better, believe me, I know. *hugs* just remember we are all beautiful in our own way, if I seriously sat down and tried to make myself perfect, I would want to be taller, waist smaller, legs a lil longer, better skin, my boobs are grown with NBE so no worries there, but seriously, thinking about things that are impossible like me being taller is silly. I am 5'1 for a reason, it is who I am, and I am beautiful. No one is perfect, period. We all have flaws, even models. All model pics are photoshopped! ALL OF THEM! I use to model, I did photoshoots, trust me on this. If you seen these lovely ladies in person, you would see their flaws. But I feel that beauty is withing the differences we all have, and the flaws. It's like an old victorian style house, I find them absolutely gorgeous, and they all have flaws, but those flaws are beautiful. Think of yourself that way, go in the mirror and instead of finding what is wrong with you, find what is beautiful. You may have gorgeous eyes or hair, but you are so concentrated on your shoulders that you are missing them. Go tell yourself you are beautiful. I guarantee there are a ton of males that would find you sexy. No two males find the same exact women sexy every time. They all have different taste, and why? Because like us, they are all different, they all have flaws. And we find them attractive right? It goes the other way around, just remember that. If I were there with you I'd give you a big hug. I really think you need it. And I hope you will see the beauty in yourself and stop trying to alter it.