[Missed Miss]

yes nail on the head. if I knew then what I knew now I would have gone another route and addressed my "sleeping" problem with "sleep" related supplements. in hindsight I can say "why the hell was I prescribed anti depressants because I couldn't sleep"....

Yeah, that's another good question!! All you really needed was to have your SO give you a nice, slow, gentle massage while some nice music on. Like this: http://youtu.be/O7gS1m24Ezk
That whole album is great!! It's called, "Orgship".
Or like this: http://youtu.be/ImHOSOML4Gk
Gots me TONS of Tangerine Dream's stuff!!

Just turn the lights down real low, put on this kind of music, get naked, get into bed, lie face down, your lover sitting next to you, and have them very gently and slowly trace their finger tip in lazy circles on your back and legs!! DEEEEELICIOUS!!!!!! To get an idea of what it's like, get a piece of string, or even a long strand of hair, and slowly drag that up or across your back. It helps a lot to kind of concentrate on what's being done to you, too. On one hand, it tenses up your body, but that makes it feel even better, but, at the same time, it's VERY relaxing!! My ex-fiancé, being Hindi, had long dark hair and, sometimes, she'd just slowly drag her hair across my back & legs!! VERY NICE!!!!

lol wow im getting tingles just thinking about that lol!!!
sadly the few times ive asked him to massage me for back/shoulder pain/tenseness its resulted in some form of hard Chinese chopstick style banging on my back and ive ended up in 100 times more pain than before I started

Hmmm, that sucketh!! But, all he has to do is very lightly and slowly trace the tip of a finger or two across your back, not pound you like a jackhammer. Do it yourself on the front or sides of your thigh and you'll get an idea of how it's SUPPOSED to work. Too bad you're not here, or I'm not there, I'd be more than happy to treat you to it!!