[KinakoNeko]

yay for chatching up!

I wish I had advice for the sex, but I don't. I think sex gets better the longer you are with someone. It can be difficult to O when you are still getting to know each others bodies and preferences.

Hey there! Kind of want to second this. I feel the best sex I've had was always with a partner whom I was extremely comfortable and felt secure with. If you feel shy or hesitant (plus the stress you mentioned) it can be harder to mentally get into it...and sex, especially for women, is very mental.

Also, as timarie suggested, maybe having a bit of alcohol or similar substance may help you?

Last thought...maybe try different positions with your partner, and doing things that build trust in the bedroom and help raise your comfort level, like having sex with the lights on, or taking your time and exploring different type of foreplay/oral stimulation? Maybe even getting off beforehand and then having actually intercourse with your partner may help you achieve the big O...

In any case...good luck with both goals! <3 <3 <3