Dear nbe -eers,
I would like to share my problem maybe I can get some ideas form this community.
I have a problem because I have been in a relationship for 2 and a half years. we love each other. but the problem is that our relationship became boring. we barely make each other laugh. personally, im no longer 'excited' to read his messages, although not always , -boredom stroke- .
we dont know what we re going to talk about except always for the same routine things.
also i FEEL that we re no longer fit perfect together. we've gone through several negative stuff, fights etc. Im ahppy when hes around because I love him and i MISS him, however DEEP INSIDE IM UTTERLY SAD. I FEEL DESPERATE. cant help the problem. I try countless of times to end the relationship but i would always fall for his crying etc because i still love him.
there are some issues i DISSCUSSED WITH HIM but he never changes. for example he never worked.
he used to be very demanding where I had to obey whatever he likes. but after motnhs and even more than a year, and with the help of his parents, i came to say no most of the times where i didnt like what he wanted. for example i wasnt allowed to talk to guys not even replying when they spoke to me, but now the scenario changed and I can speak when people talk to me.
I feel bored of the relationship and of MYSELF. i feel like i HATE myself.
dont take me that i dont love him I DO and done several things to show him I love him.
but he never changes, and he actually says hes bored of listenign to me saying the same things to him that he doesnt do. He got the license he doesnt drive. other guys work, buy a car and drive. his car is reasdy by his parents.
I liek to go clubbing but not clubs that are very bitchy and woud spoil us, I love to dance, or go out for a drink. HE WOULD NEVER WANT TO GO OUT LIKE THESE PLACES.
also hes so JEALOUSSS. fricken too much. he used to decide for me what to buy and whta not. I stopped that but I still have to buy decent clothes. if everybodys showing off cleavge. I cannot show off my 32Ds in summer. Im not saying i wont to wear bitchy clothes or undecent but almost all girls have those tops that show off some of their bodies and not everything under clothes.
he also doesnt go to the beaches where they ar enice and attract a lot fo tourists because of the sandy beach.... he told me that he doesnt want anyone to look at me or that guys would come and talk to me.
his parents wanted to do a pool in their house, he rejects me to swim in it as he doesnt want his neighbours to see me in bikinis.
there are so MANY MANY MANY shitty things running on that i try to minimise but im utterly sad. Ive lost friends.
Also since i started dating him i dont know what happened to my character I BECAME BORING, AND FUNLESS. I SONT KNOW HOW TO JOKE WITH PEOPLE ANYMORE.
I cannot add my workmates to my facebook.. so many restrictions.
The problem is that his over obssesed jealous makes me feel jealous and act sometimes paranoid-ish like him
Everyday [break up' passes thru my mind but I dont imagine myself without him because I love him even just writing this i feel crying.
please dont say that he brainwashed me that i love him like i was told in other forums. its not true.
any ideas people how I can cutt off the boredom and fix these probs?
Thanks all XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
I would like to share my problem maybe I can get some ideas form this community.
I have a problem because I have been in a relationship for 2 and a half years. we love each other. but the problem is that our relationship became boring. we barely make each other laugh. personally, im no longer 'excited' to read his messages, although not always , -boredom stroke- .
we dont know what we re going to talk about except always for the same routine things.
also i FEEL that we re no longer fit perfect together. we've gone through several negative stuff, fights etc. Im ahppy when hes around because I love him and i MISS him, however DEEP INSIDE IM UTTERLY SAD. I FEEL DESPERATE. cant help the problem. I try countless of times to end the relationship but i would always fall for his crying etc because i still love him.
there are some issues i DISSCUSSED WITH HIM but he never changes. for example he never worked.
he used to be very demanding where I had to obey whatever he likes. but after motnhs and even more than a year, and with the help of his parents, i came to say no most of the times where i didnt like what he wanted. for example i wasnt allowed to talk to guys not even replying when they spoke to me, but now the scenario changed and I can speak when people talk to me.
I feel bored of the relationship and of MYSELF. i feel like i HATE myself.
dont take me that i dont love him I DO and done several things to show him I love him.
but he never changes, and he actually says hes bored of listenign to me saying the same things to him that he doesnt do. He got the license he doesnt drive. other guys work, buy a car and drive. his car is reasdy by his parents.
I liek to go clubbing but not clubs that are very bitchy and woud spoil us, I love to dance, or go out for a drink. HE WOULD NEVER WANT TO GO OUT LIKE THESE PLACES.
also hes so JEALOUSSS. fricken too much. he used to decide for me what to buy and whta not. I stopped that but I still have to buy decent clothes. if everybodys showing off cleavge. I cannot show off my 32Ds in summer. Im not saying i wont to wear bitchy clothes or undecent but almost all girls have those tops that show off some of their bodies and not everything under clothes.
he also doesnt go to the beaches where they ar enice and attract a lot fo tourists because of the sandy beach.... he told me that he doesnt want anyone to look at me or that guys would come and talk to me.
his parents wanted to do a pool in their house, he rejects me to swim in it as he doesnt want his neighbours to see me in bikinis.
there are so MANY MANY MANY shitty things running on that i try to minimise but im utterly sad. Ive lost friends.
Also since i started dating him i dont know what happened to my character I BECAME BORING, AND FUNLESS. I SONT KNOW HOW TO JOKE WITH PEOPLE ANYMORE.
I cannot add my workmates to my facebook.. so many restrictions.
The problem is that his over obssesed jealous makes me feel jealous and act sometimes paranoid-ish like him
Everyday [break up' passes thru my mind but I dont imagine myself without him because I love him even just writing this i feel crying.
please dont say that he brainwashed me that i love him like i was told in other forums. its not true.
any ideas people how I can cutt off the boredom and fix these probs?
Thanks all XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX