01-05-2010, 00:23
So I'm not sure where to start, so please bare with me as I try explaining the situation.
My boyfriend and I have been dating nearly a year. He's 21 and I'm 20. I'm his first serious girlfriend and he's my second serious boyfriend. He's a good christian boy, no sex before marriage and all that; I can respect his point of view and while I wanted to wait until I really felt comfortable with that person I don't have that same feeling of 'have to wait'.
My previous boyfriend was younger then me and easy to please physically. This one, not so much. It doesn't help that I'm perfectly content to bask in the physical pleasure I get without really feeling like I should reciprocate. But when I do try and please him I don't feel like I'm doing anything 'right enough'. He doesn't make any noise which I do totally understand guys aren't into so much, but he's not hard at all when I try to please him. And it's giving me a complex that I'm completely inadequete in the bedroom.
I have talked to him about it and he says it's nothing I'm doing wrong and because I'm the first girl he's done those things with he doesn't have a way to tell me what I can do better, so I'm looking for some advice or reassurances or stories that could make me feel better because it's really really been bothering me lately.
My boyfriend and I have been dating nearly a year. He's 21 and I'm 20. I'm his first serious girlfriend and he's my second serious boyfriend. He's a good christian boy, no sex before marriage and all that; I can respect his point of view and while I wanted to wait until I really felt comfortable with that person I don't have that same feeling of 'have to wait'.
My previous boyfriend was younger then me and easy to please physically. This one, not so much. It doesn't help that I'm perfectly content to bask in the physical pleasure I get without really feeling like I should reciprocate. But when I do try and please him I don't feel like I'm doing anything 'right enough'. He doesn't make any noise which I do totally understand guys aren't into so much, but he's not hard at all when I try to please him. And it's giving me a complex that I'm completely inadequete in the bedroom.
I have talked to him about it and he says it's nothing I'm doing wrong and because I'm the first girl he's done those things with he doesn't have a way to tell me what I can do better, so I'm looking for some advice or reassurances or stories that could make me feel better because it's really really been bothering me lately.