10-07-2014, 19:58
(20-06-2014, 23:13)wishinandhopin Wrote: Oh dear. You are in an abusive relationship. Sorry that you don't want to hear that. You will be so much happier after you move on. He is insecure and immature. You've got to break it off and stop all communication so you both can move on.
I'm sorry. That is my best "mom" advice. It is what I would tell any of my girlfriends or daughters.
I was in such a similar situation as you. For SIX YEARS.
I spent 14-20 with a guy like that! What did I walk away with? Post traumatic stress disorder.
It took a shrink to tell me he was emotionally abusive for it to finally sink in
Now , in a new relationship... I find myself acting like he did! Insanely over protective and jealous.
Honey no amount of love for this guy is going to change him.
You need to love yourself. please learn from my experience. Walk away. Cut him off. No contact.
Stay with family and take what you can/need.
This is not safe for you.
Pm me if you want to hear my in depth background on why this concerns me so much.