11-07-2014, 03:02
(This post was last modified: 11-07-2014, 03:06 by Missed Miss.)
This doesn't SOUND like an abusive relationship, it IS an abusive relationship!!
Listen to what YOU'RE saying!! You gave him COUNTLESS chances!! Okay, enough said!! He's proven to you COUNTLESS times that he's NOT going to change!! Abusive people RARELY EVER change and no WHAT you do, chances are you'll NEVER "fix" him!! Only HE can fix himself, but I'm sure it'll take a LOT of psychological help!!!! I SERIOUSLY doubt you can give him that and, if you stay with him much longer, it'll be YOU that needs lots of psychological help!!!!
My best friend, Kelly, was in an abusive relationship ever since about 2 years before I met her, but, she had a VERY low self-esteem and just figured that if she left him for another guy, the new guy would be even worse, so she just might as well stay with this loser!! She eventually married him after he forced her to leave ALL of her friends and ONLY associate with HIS friends, which she had next to NOTHING in common with because they were HIS age, about 25 years older than her!! They had two kids together, most likely it was the old, "If-I-Have-His-Kids-Things-Will-Get-Better" ploy, but it didn't!! In fact, he's trying to sue her for paternity of their daughter because he refuses to believe he's the father!! And he IS!! She FINALLY wised up and divorced his sorry, worthless ass a few months ago!! She DID find a new boyfriend and he's WAY, WAY nicer than her ex!!!!
Anyway, he tells you not to leave him just because he has no job. 1: Tell him to GET a job!!!! And B: leave him because he's an abusive asshole!!!! YOU are unhappy in this relationship!! HE is unhappy in this relationship (I haven't a CLUE why!!!! He GETS HIS way!!!! Do you??), so, there really IS NO relationship!!!! A LOVE relationship exists because both parties have undying LOVE and RESPECT each other!! You hardly have any of either!! What's the bloody point?? You're BEATING A DEAD HORSE!! You're STUCK IN A WARPED GROOVE!! Time to change the record and get on with your life!! Drop him like a hot brick and find a NICE guy for a change and you'll SEE how happy you can be!! The reason he loves you is because you're compliant and if he has to find a new girl, he'll have to spend a lot of time training her!! He's ALREADY got YOU trained!! Make it easy on yourself, instead of TELLING him to his face that you're leaving, just LEAVE and, if you MUST, leave him a note, better yet, mail it to him from where you are and leave no return address.
Ask yourself this: you SAY you love him, but, are you IN love with him?? There IS a VAST difference!!!!
Good luck!! You'll need it!!
Listen to what YOU'RE saying!! You gave him COUNTLESS chances!! Okay, enough said!! He's proven to you COUNTLESS times that he's NOT going to change!! Abusive people RARELY EVER change and no WHAT you do, chances are you'll NEVER "fix" him!! Only HE can fix himself, but I'm sure it'll take a LOT of psychological help!!!! I SERIOUSLY doubt you can give him that and, if you stay with him much longer, it'll be YOU that needs lots of psychological help!!!!
My best friend, Kelly, was in an abusive relationship ever since about 2 years before I met her, but, she had a VERY low self-esteem and just figured that if she left him for another guy, the new guy would be even worse, so she just might as well stay with this loser!! She eventually married him after he forced her to leave ALL of her friends and ONLY associate with HIS friends, which she had next to NOTHING in common with because they were HIS age, about 25 years older than her!! They had two kids together, most likely it was the old, "If-I-Have-His-Kids-Things-Will-Get-Better" ploy, but it didn't!! In fact, he's trying to sue her for paternity of their daughter because he refuses to believe he's the father!! And he IS!! She FINALLY wised up and divorced his sorry, worthless ass a few months ago!! She DID find a new boyfriend and he's WAY, WAY nicer than her ex!!!!
Anyway, he tells you not to leave him just because he has no job. 1: Tell him to GET a job!!!! And B: leave him because he's an abusive asshole!!!! YOU are unhappy in this relationship!! HE is unhappy in this relationship (I haven't a CLUE why!!!! He GETS HIS way!!!! Do you??), so, there really IS NO relationship!!!! A LOVE relationship exists because both parties have undying LOVE and RESPECT each other!! You hardly have any of either!! What's the bloody point?? You're BEATING A DEAD HORSE!! You're STUCK IN A WARPED GROOVE!! Time to change the record and get on with your life!! Drop him like a hot brick and find a NICE guy for a change and you'll SEE how happy you can be!! The reason he loves you is because you're compliant and if he has to find a new girl, he'll have to spend a lot of time training her!! He's ALREADY got YOU trained!! Make it easy on yourself, instead of TELLING him to his face that you're leaving, just LEAVE and, if you MUST, leave him a note, better yet, mail it to him from where you are and leave no return address.
Ask yourself this: you SAY you love him, but, are you IN love with him?? There IS a VAST difference!!!!
Good luck!! You'll need it!!