01-06-2010, 22:32
You know, I´m quite friendly with my ex-es most of the time, especially if it´s been a while when we were in a relationship, because I feel we know each other so well and there´s probably some feelings of fondness that remain. So maybe she just feels comfortable around you and thinks you can understand her better now that you´re a woman too.
But if course it´s a bit strange that she´s calling and texting you so much, I´m thinking perhaps she wants your advice on something personal and is waiting for the right moment to ask?
Or maybe she´s wondering if things could work out between you two as a couple now that you´re more alike?
There´s a lot of possibilities, but I agree that you should just do as your instincts tell you. It doesn´t really matter what her intentions are, and it´s best if you don´t focus on her but on yourself, otherwise you´ll end up spending time with someone you´re not that comfortable with. I find that I always have to make an effort not to do things I don´t want to do just because someone else expects me to do them, that seems to be a typical womanly thing.
It even makes me feel guilty to say no!
For instance some weeks ago I got a message through facebook of some guy I dated when I was 19, he was a complete moron and he didn´t really seem to remember who I was but he insisted on meeting me. Now, some years ago I probably would´ve felt guilty for not calling him (he asked me to call him to get together) but now I know that it´s much better to go with my gut, and perhaps be a little selfish and protective of my own feelings, you know?
Anyway, hope this thing clears up for you a bit, let us know if there´s anything we can do to help.
But if course it´s a bit strange that she´s calling and texting you so much, I´m thinking perhaps she wants your advice on something personal and is waiting for the right moment to ask?
Or maybe she´s wondering if things could work out between you two as a couple now that you´re more alike?
There´s a lot of possibilities, but I agree that you should just do as your instincts tell you. It doesn´t really matter what her intentions are, and it´s best if you don´t focus on her but on yourself, otherwise you´ll end up spending time with someone you´re not that comfortable with. I find that I always have to make an effort not to do things I don´t want to do just because someone else expects me to do them, that seems to be a typical womanly thing.
It even makes me feel guilty to say no!
For instance some weeks ago I got a message through facebook of some guy I dated when I was 19, he was a complete moron and he didn´t really seem to remember who I was but he insisted on meeting me. Now, some years ago I probably would´ve felt guilty for not calling him (he asked me to call him to get together) but now I know that it´s much better to go with my gut, and perhaps be a little selfish and protective of my own feelings, you know?
Anyway, hope this thing clears up for you a bit, let us know if there´s anything we can do to help.