[Anastasia916]

I can't really advise on the losing the virginity thing, cause as I said, what I considered my first time at 14 was forced and I didn't want it, so I would imagine it hurt worse than it should. But I didn't have sex for quite a while after that, I didn't let anyone close to me for a while. And I hear if you don't have sex for a while you can become the same tightness and such you were as a virgin. So there are two occasions that happened to me... my first real consensual time which was probably 15 going on 16, then my first time with my husband, cause I hadn't dated or been with anyone for like a year or so before getting with him (I haven't had alot of sexual partners). In those two "first times" it was uncomfortable, but as long as the male is gentle, slow and doesn't try to rush or force, it's not bad. I actually bled the first time with my hubby, just like "popping the cherry", so I suppose not having sex for the year or so is what did that. He was super gentle, and slow, and as long as you have alot of foreplay for you to "warm up" and get the juices flowing down there, you should be fine. Just remember to wait until you find the right guy I wish I had that choice, I would have waited until I was married. But yea I would think the level of pain of a first time would depend on your pain threshold, and how gentle and understanding the guy is. I have a high tolerance to pain, just a FYI. Hope this helps you understand better, but maybe someone else can advise better who actually lost their virginity to a good guy?