28-04-2015, 03:00
Lingerie Jessica,
I think it is wonderful that you have a loving and supporting wife. I too agree with considering waiting until the kids are at least 18. But, at the dosages of PM you are taking you may not be able to hide your intentions that long. So, give that some thought.
I think your profile is common to most all of us TG's on here and that shows me conformity in this "brain wiring" we have. I know that I did not plan my journey but it mimics yours to a "T" as most others do as well. I think the denial issue is what causes us the most mental anguish and issues with depression. But, I stayed in denial much too long and it never cured me. It just caused me bigger problems.
First, I don't want to be cured or think that I could ever be cured. It took me way too long to accept that I was different and it almost cost me my life. I think that you are much smarter than I about recognizing earlier than myself that denial is not healthy. That is especially a good thing being the father of four children. (congrats!!) Denial only generates issues that would have been destructive to your relationship with your family. Again, you are so fortunate that you have such a loving wife! If we understand and are honest about our issues, we can deal with them.
Small changes is a great attitude and should keep you grounded in reality. Many times people will overreact and cause great harm to themselves and their families. I think you are going about this is a very sensible manner and that you will ultimately accomplish what is best for you and your family.
I have been exactly where you are except for the understanding spouse. So let me say it again, you are so fortunate! I wish you success and good health and welcome to the board! I so respect the senior people here that have guided me for a couple of years. My profile states I am a newbie but I have been here a couple of years and opened a new account because of a computer issue.
I hope to communicate with you in the future!
Kindest regards,
KellyT
I think it is wonderful that you have a loving and supporting wife. I too agree with considering waiting until the kids are at least 18. But, at the dosages of PM you are taking you may not be able to hide your intentions that long. So, give that some thought.
I think your profile is common to most all of us TG's on here and that shows me conformity in this "brain wiring" we have. I know that I did not plan my journey but it mimics yours to a "T" as most others do as well. I think the denial issue is what causes us the most mental anguish and issues with depression. But, I stayed in denial much too long and it never cured me. It just caused me bigger problems.
First, I don't want to be cured or think that I could ever be cured. It took me way too long to accept that I was different and it almost cost me my life. I think that you are much smarter than I about recognizing earlier than myself that denial is not healthy. That is especially a good thing being the father of four children. (congrats!!) Denial only generates issues that would have been destructive to your relationship with your family. Again, you are so fortunate that you have such a loving wife! If we understand and are honest about our issues, we can deal with them.
Small changes is a great attitude and should keep you grounded in reality. Many times people will overreact and cause great harm to themselves and their families. I think you are going about this is a very sensible manner and that you will ultimately accomplish what is best for you and your family.
I have been exactly where you are except for the understanding spouse. So let me say it again, you are so fortunate! I wish you success and good health and welcome to the board! I so respect the senior people here that have guided me for a couple of years. My profile states I am a newbie but I have been here a couple of years and opened a new account because of a computer issue.
I hope to communicate with you in the future!
Kindest regards,
KellyT