18-07-2010, 16:40
(16-07-2010, 20:48)Bibi Wrote: Welcome to the forum Ash! You´ll find a lot of helpful people here.I understand what you mean, i do often hear it a lot and i do think about it, normally when you think of having a baby with you partner you think your bond will get stronger but your bond will also be split. Kid's are a big deal i fully understand that but if the father is willing to share are bond with a child then i give him the full support, not many men take that responsability. My father wanted a boy, he wanted the birthday to be halloween. Instead he had a baby girl, who was born November 2. When i grew up my dad didn't want me around. He was a heavy drinker and a very heavy smoker. He would always stay in the basement. So he was around but he didn't want me around. I'm 17 and i still don't know much about him.
I´m very sorry your mom is making you insecure about your boobs btw. But I agree with the others that it´s best if you clear the bigger issues first, like what´s going on with those symptoms you describe, and then embark on growing boobs.
Anyway, just wanted to add that having kids will change your life completely and I think from then on the bond you have with your kid will be the most profound one you will experience. For me, having kids made me see that the relationship with their dad (with whom I was very serious) wasn´t as important as the one I had with them. When I was your age, I had the idea that having children with some guy was some sort of complement to the relationship with him, but then I found out that it was kind of the other way around. It was a bit of a surprise to find that out so I thought perhaps to bring it up, it would´ve helped me if I´d known that when I was younger.
BTW: took the 3rd pregnancy test and it was negitive. Most likely my symptoms are from my depo provara.