[twister_mama]

Cheryl, I too read your posts, and there was absolutely nothing offensive whatsoever (and I'm a biological female). That Carol "person" (and I use the term loosely) was making hastened assumptions. It really sucks when you genuinely try to help someone, and then get jumped on like that. That happened to me once, on a homeschooling board; a bunch of parents wanted to put their kids back in public school because they supposedly could get "free" money for college (program ran out of money three years later - big surprise). And their kids were doing so well with homeschooling; and they started a thread asking other parents what they thought about it. Well, I was the ONLY one who said maybe we oughtta think about what's best for our KIDS, and if they are doing very well with homeschooling, maybe you should stick with it, cuz switching them to a new school would be really stressful and disruptive to them; and who's to say that money will still be there 10 years from now. Needless to say, I got jumped on all over by all those "parents" who said I was being judgmental and stuff. I was pregnant with my son at the time, and VERY, VERY upset by it all. I finally just said "screw it;" I didn't need THAT stress in my life. Whatever. Sorry about my rant, but you're not alone! It's a sad world we live in, when decent people try to help others and end up being the one blasted! I have no room for that kind of stress in my life - and you don't, either.

They're not worthy of the advice and expertise you could've given them.