11-08-2010, 05:05
Hi Hippie, congrats on going to college. I remember first going to college and it was very exciting.
What you will be surprised at is going to college (particularly a big place like a university) is very different from high school in that there is such a high level of diversity. In high school i remember people met and dated each other based on clicks or status (like jock with cheerleader or president of this club with president of that club) but you will find many people at universities (at least in my experience) date eachother based on mutual interests. You'll find yourself hanging out with people in your same major as you will run into them alot and have some of the same classes. I met my current boyfriend because we were both philosophy majors and had almost all of the same classes.
Try not to be too concerned about looks. Most people in college (particularly after their freshman year) have matured a bit and tend to focus in internal characteristics rather than appearances. Of course some people will always choose their mates based on looks, and some frat boys will only date sorority chicks, but universities have plenty of mature men who while pursuing their education come to learn the value of being with someone they can relate well to and be interpersonal with, whom they share interests and ideas with. So don't worry too much and just be yourself. With all of the activities, organizations and events that will happen you will inevitably meet people you connect well with. It's MUCH different from high school and I think you'll enjoy it alot.
I think that rather than it being difficult for you to find someone to date, it will turn out that you will have more than one option to choose from, so enjoy college and enjoy yourself and have fun, but don't forget about your academics!
What you will be surprised at is going to college (particularly a big place like a university) is very different from high school in that there is such a high level of diversity. In high school i remember people met and dated each other based on clicks or status (like jock with cheerleader or president of this club with president of that club) but you will find many people at universities (at least in my experience) date eachother based on mutual interests. You'll find yourself hanging out with people in your same major as you will run into them alot and have some of the same classes. I met my current boyfriend because we were both philosophy majors and had almost all of the same classes.
Try not to be too concerned about looks. Most people in college (particularly after their freshman year) have matured a bit and tend to focus in internal characteristics rather than appearances. Of course some people will always choose their mates based on looks, and some frat boys will only date sorority chicks, but universities have plenty of mature men who while pursuing their education come to learn the value of being with someone they can relate well to and be interpersonal with, whom they share interests and ideas with. So don't worry too much and just be yourself. With all of the activities, organizations and events that will happen you will inevitably meet people you connect well with. It's MUCH different from high school and I think you'll enjoy it alot.
I think that rather than it being difficult for you to find someone to date, it will turn out that you will have more than one option to choose from, so enjoy college and enjoy yourself and have fun, but don't forget about your academics!