08-11-2010, 18:23
Wanted to add that there is still hope for him! I saw a special on the Maury Show once where a born male was turned female by his own parents! He was a twin, his other twin was also a boy. There was a horrible fire in their house, an accident happened when he was 3 I believe where a flaming piece of wood or something fell on his crotch. Doctors told his parents that he would never have a normal functioning penis. So they decided to get it taken off, started giving treating him as a girl, when he came of age started surgeries down there and hormone treatments. And he said he was always a tomboy though he was told he was a girl. He became interested in girls, not boys, and was told he was wrong for it. He was just meant to be a man not a woman. By the time he became an adult he was told the truth and pretty much disowned his parents. He started seeing specialists to become a man again. He doesn't have a penis, but like a female TG to male, he looks and sounds just like a normal man now. So there is hope, though unlike male to female, females to males cannot have a very good sexual organ. Male to female are lucky that they can have a very good functioning vagina, but like surgeons say, it's easier to male a hole then make a pole. But the boy that contacted you can always use was born females use that want to be male, a strap-on. Not the best alternative, but better than nothing.
As for his mother, she should be ashamed! If my son came to me when he's 11 and said that, I would take him to a therapist to be 100% sure this is what he should become. Then I'd take him to a gender specialist and be sure we don't do anything until the time is right. I think what Mel said is right, too many parents nowadays want to be friends with their kids instead of parents. I always feel like a misfit among parents of kids my son's age. I feel I'm the only real parent in the room sometimes. It seems the others are too concentrated on being friends with their kids and being the "cool mom" or "cool dad" that they lose track with what is best for their kids. Which is really a sad thing. Though I can say I'm usually the youngest parent around other parents my sons age, I feel out of place with that often too. I'm 23 with a 5 year old, and the other parents are usually 28+ most are mid 30's. And I've actually had some parents with 5 year olds and them in their 30's tell me stuff like "don't you think you are being a bit too harsh with him?". I think my benefit is that I was adopted by a woman when I was 16 months old and she was 45, so I was raised old school, and that's exactly how I raise my own son, not as severe as my mom was with me, but same principals. And he is a very happy, active, intelligent 5 year old, so I must be doing something right. Sorry if I'm ranting lol just parents not doing what's right for their kids get my blood boiling. I'm constantly judged for being a young mom, constantly get those looks like "oh god, she's not going to raise him right" yet I see more of the parents in their 30's being what they expect me to be.
I hope he does get the help he needs and everything turns out for the better for him!
Oh as far as your point on herbs, I agree. Herbs in my opinion SHOULD NOT be used by anyone under 18, and I feel they shouldn't be used by girls or boys under 21. I did herbs when I was 18 and I feel they did give me bad side effects and probably messed up my system a lil, I should have waited a lil longer. But this was a year after I had my son, so my system was altered already compared to an 18 year old that hasn't had kids. I think BO is a bit safer for those under 18, but shouldn't be used unless the girl has had her period for at least 2 years, even then they should do their research, maybe ask a few doctors, etc. But I think massage is fine for any age. But I think people trust herbs too easily, jump in blindly, and don't realize, herbs are not one size fits all. You have to find the right herbs and combinations that work for you. It's like I've said before, it's like trying to come up with a new recipe to a cake, without the right ingredients and amounts, it will not turn out right. I hope this thread helps those looking on the forum that are underage.
As for his mother, she should be ashamed! If my son came to me when he's 11 and said that, I would take him to a therapist to be 100% sure this is what he should become. Then I'd take him to a gender specialist and be sure we don't do anything until the time is right. I think what Mel said is right, too many parents nowadays want to be friends with their kids instead of parents. I always feel like a misfit among parents of kids my son's age. I feel I'm the only real parent in the room sometimes. It seems the others are too concentrated on being friends with their kids and being the "cool mom" or "cool dad" that they lose track with what is best for their kids. Which is really a sad thing. Though I can say I'm usually the youngest parent around other parents my sons age, I feel out of place with that often too. I'm 23 with a 5 year old, and the other parents are usually 28+ most are mid 30's. And I've actually had some parents with 5 year olds and them in their 30's tell me stuff like "don't you think you are being a bit too harsh with him?". I think my benefit is that I was adopted by a woman when I was 16 months old and she was 45, so I was raised old school, and that's exactly how I raise my own son, not as severe as my mom was with me, but same principals. And he is a very happy, active, intelligent 5 year old, so I must be doing something right. Sorry if I'm ranting lol just parents not doing what's right for their kids get my blood boiling. I'm constantly judged for being a young mom, constantly get those looks like "oh god, she's not going to raise him right" yet I see more of the parents in their 30's being what they expect me to be.
I hope he does get the help he needs and everything turns out for the better for him!
Oh as far as your point on herbs, I agree. Herbs in my opinion SHOULD NOT be used by anyone under 18, and I feel they shouldn't be used by girls or boys under 21. I did herbs when I was 18 and I feel they did give me bad side effects and probably messed up my system a lil, I should have waited a lil longer. But this was a year after I had my son, so my system was altered already compared to an 18 year old that hasn't had kids. I think BO is a bit safer for those under 18, but shouldn't be used unless the girl has had her period for at least 2 years, even then they should do their research, maybe ask a few doctors, etc. But I think massage is fine for any age. But I think people trust herbs too easily, jump in blindly, and don't realize, herbs are not one size fits all. You have to find the right herbs and combinations that work for you. It's like I've said before, it's like trying to come up with a new recipe to a cake, without the right ingredients and amounts, it will not turn out right. I hope this thread helps those looking on the forum that are underage.