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Brava straining on the relationship?
March 6 2009 at 1:36 PM CousinRose (Login CousinRose)
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Has this time of wearing Brava affected your relationship with your husband/boyfriend?
I feel my relationship has changed those 9 weeks I have been wearing the domes but I only have 3 weeks left to finish the cycle and I don't want to stop. It's all those little things. I had a bad dream last night and woke up my bf but the couldn't hold me. He can't spoon me while we watch a movie in the evenings, we can't be spontaniously intimit and I feel we are less close than before.
I am just wondering if this is a "normal" part of the process! How do you keep your relationship going?
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Beeper12
(Login Beeper12) How long? March 7 2009, 12:23 PM
How many hours per day do you wear the Brava? I know for me, I usually can only do the 10 hours, but that gives me time to snuggle with my husband and hang out a bit before I put these bad boys on. If you put them on the second you come home from work I'd imagine things would change a bit...but I wouldn't worry because he obviously supports you so just hang in there and make up for lost "time" when you're done!
How's your progress??
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CousinRose
(Login CousinRose) Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 7 2009, 1:44 PM
Hey Beeper12. Thanks for the encouragement.
I average around 13-14 hours a day but I usually put them on late evenings (between 10-12) and wear them in the morning and sometimes afternoon while my bf is working and I am studying (I only have classes in the afternoon). The reason I am trying to do longer hours is because I am only doing 12 weeks.
My progress is really good and that's the reason I wish I could go longer. I just started week 10 and I am retaining 5 cm (2 inches) after 12 hours off and 3 weeks ago I was retaining 4 cm which should be my final size since week 6 was my halfway point.
How is your progress? How many weeks have you done?
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Beeper12
(Login Beeper12) Great! March 7 2009, 4:04 PM
That's fantastic! You should be happy with your results! What is your desired cup size?
Are you using the smartbox or airlock?
I just started so I'm only wrapping up week 2 so I don't have much to show for it yet! In the morning my boobs are definitely swollen and it lasts a good bit before deflating.
I hope to do this a long as I have to - to get to a full 34B...I hope I can hang in there!
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CousinRose
(Login CousinRose) Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 7 2009, 6:32 PM
I am aiming for a 34C, was a small 34B to begin with, and I actually fit in a 34C in the evenings. (Before my NBE quest I was a 34 A but I always wore padded B bras, so this is a big difference for me). I guess I have reached my desired cup size if I don't loose everything in the end. I am prepared for anything
I am using the smartbox, I once tried to airlock and woke up the next morning with no swelling and a lost night! That was in october and I quit after 1 week and began again this January using only the smartbox. It seems to be working for me.
The first 2 weeks are the worst! Then you get more used to it. My only problem is my boyfriend and an occational itch.
What is your starting size?
Rose
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Beeper12
(Login Beeper12) Wow! March 8 2009, 2:41 PM
You went from a 34A to a 34C? That's awesome!! 34C is definitely a dream of mine but I'm aiming for a B first - then if I have the energy to keep going I will. I'm starting as a 34A myself, using the airlock because I couldn't afford buying brava through the company itself. So I got the domes on eBay and made my own airlock!
Did you do anything other than Brava to achieve your results??
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Rox3
(no login) Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 8 2009, 11:04 PM
Yes, it's definitely been a challenge on the marriage with the big domes on. Try being intimate or snuggle and it's a comedy of errors - the Smartbox goes off and you both start laughing I try to put them on as late as possible - hence why I'm only getting in 10 hours a night. Also no snuggling while sleeping right now but I keep saying it's short term.
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CousinRose
(Login CousinRose) Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 9 2009, 10:49 AM
Beeper - I come from a family of C's and D's so obviously A's isn't in my genes so I realized something was wrong. I read the forum and saw that sugar is really bad for breasts and protein really good. I was a sugarholic and had sweets everyday and ate little proteins. So I changed my diet from excess sugar and high carbs to normal levels of carbs, no sugar and normal proteins. It was so hard to change but my body did change a little, I gained muscles ( I work out a lot), my face changed to the better and my breasts grew to a small B (about one cup size). I did gain 2 kg (about 4 pounds) but very little of it was from fat other then on my chest
Rox - I know exactly what you are going through and if I will ever do another cycle, I will only do 10 hours a day. We sometimes plan a romantic evening together in advance when it fits my schedule to wear the domes late!
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elusia
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SENIOR MEMBER Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 9 2009, 11:51 AM
Cousin Rose,
yes, your progress from A to C is amazing and an encouragement to all of us! And yes, it can be a huge strain on relationships, but I think it depends a lot on how your man is! My husband is pretty much going crazy when I can't spend endless hours cuddling and being close to him, but then again, I aim for 12-14 hours a day and I need to put the domes on early every evening. I don't even know if I'll be able to finish my planned 12 weeks - if things go too bad with him...
I think that single ladies should use Brava to test the caracter of their bf - if he can handle 12-50 weeks of Brava - he will be likely to last a lifetime ; )) If not, great, dump him and find someone who's willing to sacrifice some of his pleasures in order for you to achieve your dreams (we women tend to do that all the time, but in my experience, not many man can do it!) Just a thought! ; )
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roakie
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SENIOR MEMBER Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 9 2009, 3:13 PM
Agreed, Elusia!
March 6 2009 at 1:36 PM CousinRose (Login CousinRose)
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Has this time of wearing Brava affected your relationship with your husband/boyfriend?
I feel my relationship has changed those 9 weeks I have been wearing the domes but I only have 3 weeks left to finish the cycle and I don't want to stop. It's all those little things. I had a bad dream last night and woke up my bf but the couldn't hold me. He can't spoon me while we watch a movie in the evenings, we can't be spontaniously intimit and I feel we are less close than before.
I am just wondering if this is a "normal" part of the process! How do you keep your relationship going?
Author Reply
Beeper12
(Login Beeper12) How long? March 7 2009, 12:23 PM
How many hours per day do you wear the Brava? I know for me, I usually can only do the 10 hours, but that gives me time to snuggle with my husband and hang out a bit before I put these bad boys on. If you put them on the second you come home from work I'd imagine things would change a bit...but I wouldn't worry because he obviously supports you so just hang in there and make up for lost "time" when you're done!
How's your progress??
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CousinRose
(Login CousinRose) Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 7 2009, 1:44 PM
Hey Beeper12. Thanks for the encouragement.
I average around 13-14 hours a day but I usually put them on late evenings (between 10-12) and wear them in the morning and sometimes afternoon while my bf is working and I am studying (I only have classes in the afternoon). The reason I am trying to do longer hours is because I am only doing 12 weeks.
My progress is really good and that's the reason I wish I could go longer. I just started week 10 and I am retaining 5 cm (2 inches) after 12 hours off and 3 weeks ago I was retaining 4 cm which should be my final size since week 6 was my halfway point.
How is your progress? How many weeks have you done?
Edit Message Delete Message
Beeper12
(Login Beeper12) Great! March 7 2009, 4:04 PM
That's fantastic! You should be happy with your results! What is your desired cup size?
Are you using the smartbox or airlock?
I just started so I'm only wrapping up week 2 so I don't have much to show for it yet! In the morning my boobs are definitely swollen and it lasts a good bit before deflating.
I hope to do this a long as I have to - to get to a full 34B...I hope I can hang in there!
Edit Message Delete Message
CousinRose
(Login CousinRose) Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 7 2009, 6:32 PM
I am aiming for a 34C, was a small 34B to begin with, and I actually fit in a 34C in the evenings. (Before my NBE quest I was a 34 A but I always wore padded B bras, so this is a big difference for me). I guess I have reached my desired cup size if I don't loose everything in the end. I am prepared for anything
I am using the smartbox, I once tried to airlock and woke up the next morning with no swelling and a lost night! That was in october and I quit after 1 week and began again this January using only the smartbox. It seems to be working for me.
The first 2 weeks are the worst! Then you get more used to it. My only problem is my boyfriend and an occational itch.
What is your starting size?
Rose
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Beeper12
(Login Beeper12) Wow! March 8 2009, 2:41 PM
You went from a 34A to a 34C? That's awesome!! 34C is definitely a dream of mine but I'm aiming for a B first - then if I have the energy to keep going I will. I'm starting as a 34A myself, using the airlock because I couldn't afford buying brava through the company itself. So I got the domes on eBay and made my own airlock!
Did you do anything other than Brava to achieve your results??
Edit Message Delete Message
Rox3
(no login) Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 8 2009, 11:04 PM
Yes, it's definitely been a challenge on the marriage with the big domes on. Try being intimate or snuggle and it's a comedy of errors - the Smartbox goes off and you both start laughing
I try to put them on as late as possible - hence why I'm only getting in 10 hours a night. Also no snuggling while sleeping right now but I keep saying it's short term. Edit Message Delete Message
CousinRose
(Login CousinRose) Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 9 2009, 10:49 AM
Beeper - I come from a family of C's and D's so obviously A's isn't in my genes so I realized something was wrong. I read the forum and saw that sugar is really bad for breasts and protein really good. I was a sugarholic and had sweets everyday and ate little proteins. So I changed my diet from excess sugar and high carbs to normal levels of carbs, no sugar and normal proteins. It was so hard to change but my body did change a little, I gained muscles ( I work out a lot), my face changed to the better and my breasts grew to a small B (about one cup size). I did gain 2 kg (about 4 pounds) but very little of it was from fat other then on my chest
Rox - I know exactly what you are going through and if I will ever do another cycle, I will only do 10 hours a day. We sometimes plan a romantic evening together in advance when it fits my schedule to wear the domes late!
Edit Message Delete Message
elusia
(Login elusia)
SENIOR MEMBER Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 9 2009, 11:51 AM
Cousin Rose,
yes, your progress from A to C is amazing and an encouragement to all of us! And yes, it can be a huge strain on relationships, but I think it depends a lot on how your man is! My husband is pretty much going crazy when I can't spend endless hours cuddling and being close to him, but then again, I aim for 12-14 hours a day and I need to put the domes on early every evening. I don't even know if I'll be able to finish my planned 12 weeks - if things go too bad with him...
I think that single ladies should use Brava to test the caracter of their bf - if he can handle 12-50 weeks of Brava - he will be likely to last a lifetime ; )) If not, great, dump him and find someone who's willing to sacrifice some of his pleasures in order for you to achieve your dreams (we women tend to do that all the time, but in my experience, not many man can do it!) Just a thought! ; )
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roakie
(Login roakie)
SENIOR MEMBER Re: Brava straining on the relationship? March 9 2009, 3:13 PM
Agreed, Elusia!