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social life
October 3 2007 at 1:15 AM Jess (Login wigirl83)
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So, I have been checking out this forum for a few months now and I finally bought my own system ($900 even on ebay - ouch). I figure the amount of money I spent on the thing will at least keep me motivated to do it, right.. hopefully. I was wondering, is it possible to maintain a social life while doing this? Has anyone tried dating while using brava? (lots of hmm I have to leave before I turn into a pumpkin situations.. haha) Just curious. Thanks!
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dandelion
(Login dandelion1) Re: social life October 3 2007, 5:36 AM
I'm also curious about this - i am currently seeing someone (only been two months so i will not inlcuding him on this journey) and i'd like to know if skin legions and blisters are so common that he would definitly notice them, even in the dark...and if you get big red rims where the domes are placed all day. I am ordering mine on ebay as well, just waiting for the auction to finish in 18 hours!
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Louise
(Login Louise1982)
SENIOR MEMBER Sorry turned into a novel! October 3 2007, 9:59 AM
I had one terrible acne-like rash that wouldn't have be concealable (but that was after wearing almost solidly for 5 days so it was my own fault). Otherwise you can usually cover with makeup and should def be ok in the dark. However, I was just about a 32B before I started and the swelling has got as big as 32DD (not sure about E as never tried E cup bra but DD was v full) - so surely he'd notice that sometimes you had huge boobs and sometimes you didn't? If you move around and the seal breaks the silicone edge makes a loud farting noise which could be embarassing - beware this when on the phone! Don't think men are too clued up about these things so maybe you could tell him you have to wear it for asthma or a bad back or something and not show him the actual tit-shaped apparatus?!?!
In general you can either go to work or go out, not both. If you have to take them off at 7am to get ready for work you need to be wearing them at the latest 8pm. Also Brava keep changing the goal posts in terms of wear so most of us are doing a lot more than the original 10 hours per day for 10 weeks. Apparently if you only wear for 8.5 hours for one night in a week and at least 11 hours every other night this doesn't count as a missed night - however less than this or more than once and you need to add 5 complete nights to you total. Also remember when the tissue expansion theory behind Brava is applied to other body areas they implant a balloon under the skin to give a 'push' tension rather than a 'pull' and they leave it there 24/7 for several months so you need maximum hours for it to be worthwhile.
If you want to wear the domes out and about (in situations where you won't move your arms too much and let out a huge dome-fart) then wearing a loose dress, shawl and large cardigan or coat makes you look fat / pregnant rather than deformed - I've done this with the narrow large domes and others have with wide medium. The XLs just look stupid but you shouldn't need them for a bit. Even in this 'disguise' you'd look funny to someone who knew you so you'll probably spend a lot of time locked up indoors - I'm thinking about taking a correspondence course!
All this said, my husand works abroad so I'm not getting out much anyway. I'm averaging 15 hours per night over nearly 13 weeks and had to leave off to fly out to visit him so they were off for over 30 hours and I seem to have 0.75 inch extra remaining after that time so hope something's happening. I'm aiming for 26 weeks, 4 month break then another 26 weeks if I got at least in inch the first time. Someone on another forum used on and off for 3-4 years and got 3-4 inches which is amazing so gives us all hope.
Good luck girls, keep us posted as to how you get on x
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Julie
(no login) Re: social life October 4 2007, 8:42 AM
I don't see how you can really expect to conceal this from anyone. I had blisters which hurt when they were touched and a rash later on which I also didn't want touching. Assuming they could be hidden in the dark, you might still need to guide someone on where to touch and where not to touch. Too much touching in the wrong place could be seriously painful. You really don't want to find a blister being rubbed by someone.
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Louise
(Login Louise1982)
SENIOR MEMBER Re: social life October 4 2007, 9:59 AM
Well boob-squeezing is definitely off and pressing them hard against his chest hurts if either you just took the domes off or have very big swelling and the bigger they are the more he'll probably mess about with them!
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livinonaprayer
(no login) Re: social life October 4 2007, 2:34 PM
I wore wide large domes and you CANNOT hide them. I about cried when I opened the box and saw how huge they are and realized you can't leave your house in them. I wouldn't even consider wearing them around my house in front of anyone but my immediate family. If someone drops by, you probably want to hide unless you don't mind them seeing you with torpedos under your shirt. I could only wear a baggy men's extra large T-shirt over mine. I would not wear this in nice weather and be confined to the house again (wore from April - June last time). I like to go outside and be active. With that being said, I will start a second cycle from December - April and not be as obsessive about getting in mega hours. I was happy with my results which were bascially being more filled out and lifted. I plan on wearing from about 7:00 p.m. - 7:00 a.m. next time and a few hours longer when I can. You cannot cuddle while wearing the domes or pick up a child. You definitely have to sleep on your back too. I did not have any skin problems but I also did not use extra suction - only the sportbox attached and I used skin prep and dome cleanser. You do get used to it and looking back I think it's worth it if you don't let it interefere with your life too much. I am married with two kids and we stay home in the evenings a lot and hang out together with most errands and activities in early evening so this did not interfere with my social life outside the home. I don't know about dating. The "footprint or outline" from the domes remained on me for several hours. Even though my husband and I both loved the morning swelling, I did not go around with tight shirts because I didn't want to look like I obviously deflated throughout the day. I think I will be more likely to show off "my final results" and keep the "swelled" look in the bedroom. Also, I don't think Brava is being accurate about later you have a greater proportion of true growth to swelling. Swelling is huge and I don't believe most people keep that amount of growth otherwise there would be photos showing it. If you took a photo of yourself when the domes come off, it would look like a boob job, but it doesn't last all day. It gradually shrinks. It's all in your expectations. I do believe you get growth, but you need to be happy with probably not getting a significant amount. In my case I was saggy and deflated from pregnancy, weight loss, and breastfeeding. Brava "fills in the gaps" so it is more noticeable to say yourself and your significant other. I also don't believe Brava when they say that when you see the breast size you've always wanted when you put the domes back on, you're half way there. It is a process that takes time and in my case it was just gradual growth over the 11 weeks. You should definitely take before pictures so you can see where you started out because all the swelling and deflating make you forget where you were. It is worth it when you're done IF you were persistent and wear it everyday because when you've completed that cycle, you keep your growth and you can build on it again later or be happy with what you've attained and all the aggravation is behind you. Just don't let it ruin your relationships by avoiding friends or family. If this boyfriend is special to you, you might want to fess up to what you're doing. Just don't let it control your time. Try to wear it when you're at home or sleeping anyway. Also, exercise, eat right, and take care of yourself so that whatever you end up with, at least you're in good shape.
Good luck!!
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Louise
(no login) Re: social life October 4 2007, 3:31 PM
I agree with most of that but remember you have to put in the hours to get any result otherwise you'll just be wasting the time you do spend. If you want a boost for an evening there are cheaper machines that will give swelling quicker. I stayed with hubby for 2 weeks (he works abroad) and was hoping to put it on when he went to sleep and take it off before he came home from work so getting 18 hours per day, but if I made any movement in the night it let out a huge farting noise and disturbed his sleep so he banned them and I didn't go all that way after not seeing him for 3 months to sleep on the couch - even just turning slighly so I could put my leg next to him was enough to break the seal, you need to be very much alone unfortunately.
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Bex
(no login) Re: social life October 4 2007, 10:10 PM
I am currently seeing someone, but he has been abroad for the past 6 weeks so I've managed to get in some good hours without him. Otherwise it really would have been tricky.
I work full-time, so do approx 8pm-8am every weeknight, 8pm-2pm Friday to Sat (so I can go out on Sat night) and 2am-4pm Sat to Sun. If I see the boy I keep the domes on until about 8pm on Sat night and then make an excuse as to why I need to leave at 8am in the morning. It is very difficult.
In short: no, you really can't. I am at week 9 and, looking back, just don't know how I've done it. Am going to struggle on for another month and then jack it in. It will be like leaving prison.
Why not see this guy for a while, and if he doesn't have a problem with your breasts, there's probably no need for Brava anyway. I think us women are far more obsessed with size than they are!
But whatever you decided... good luck!
x
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dandelion
(Login dandelion1) Re: social life October 27 2007, 6:59 AM
thanks everyone for your responses
I do have high hopes, but at the same time I've hear horror stories (lots of wear, no gain, bad rashes all at once). I'm in for the long run (or at least as long as my domes last me). I will weart them consistently whenever I'm at home and overnight when sleeping at home, until i read a 34C and I realize that this might take me a while. I read that a lady on another forum got 3-4 inches in 3-4 years of on-off wear. If thats what it takes I'm ready (unless celution becomes available, then I'm just gonna for that). reading all your posts made me realize that I can't get too optimistic, so thanks for the reality
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Stephanie
(no login) Re: social life October 27 2007, 7:39 AM
You are not supposed to have a social life whilst using Brava. It's something you put on hold until Brava is over with.
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Louise
(Login Louise1982)
SENIOR MEMBER Re: social life October 27 2007, 7:37 PM
Dandelion, Celution is available in Japan for 12k - see posts on the surgery forum. I would consider celution as a last resort but someone said they can come out lumpy. On the bright side I'm also aiming for 34C (or equivalent 32D as I'm a small person) and the last 2 days I feel that I'm beginning to see a definite increase remaining at the end of the day (on week 17, averaging 15hrs per day so just past 1700) and once you get past the crappy 'new' stage where it's all itchy and nothing to see you get used to it. I want to do 2x 6 month sessions separated by 4 month break. If I have no growth after that I'll assume it's not going to work but feeling positive at the moment (and I've lost 15 lbs since starting Brava so lucky not to be even smaller!). Stay motivated!
October 3 2007 at 1:15 AM Jess (Login wigirl83)
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So, I have been checking out this forum for a few months now and I finally bought my own system ($900 even on ebay - ouch). I figure the amount of money I spent on the thing will at least keep me motivated to do it, right.. hopefully. I was wondering, is it possible to maintain a social life while doing this? Has anyone tried dating while using brava? (lots of hmm I have to leave before I turn into a pumpkin situations.. haha) Just curious. Thanks!
Author Reply
dandelion
(Login dandelion1) Re: social life October 3 2007, 5:36 AM
I'm also curious about this - i am currently seeing someone (only been two months so i will not inlcuding him on this journey) and i'd like to know if skin legions and blisters are so common that he would definitly notice them, even in the dark...and if you get big red rims where the domes are placed all day. I am ordering mine on ebay as well, just waiting for the auction to finish in 18 hours!
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Louise
(Login Louise1982)
SENIOR MEMBER Sorry turned into a novel! October 3 2007, 9:59 AM
I had one terrible acne-like rash that wouldn't have be concealable (but that was after wearing almost solidly for 5 days so it was my own fault). Otherwise you can usually cover with makeup and should def be ok in the dark. However, I was just about a 32B before I started and the swelling has got as big as 32DD (not sure about E as never tried E cup bra but DD was v full) - so surely he'd notice that sometimes you had huge boobs and sometimes you didn't? If you move around and the seal breaks the silicone edge makes a loud farting noise which could be embarassing - beware this when on the phone! Don't think men are too clued up about these things so maybe you could tell him you have to wear it for asthma or a bad back or something and not show him the actual tit-shaped apparatus?!?!
In general you can either go to work or go out, not both. If you have to take them off at 7am to get ready for work you need to be wearing them at the latest 8pm. Also Brava keep changing the goal posts in terms of wear so most of us are doing a lot more than the original 10 hours per day for 10 weeks. Apparently if you only wear for 8.5 hours for one night in a week and at least 11 hours every other night this doesn't count as a missed night - however less than this or more than once and you need to add 5 complete nights to you total. Also remember when the tissue expansion theory behind Brava is applied to other body areas they implant a balloon under the skin to give a 'push' tension rather than a 'pull' and they leave it there 24/7 for several months so you need maximum hours for it to be worthwhile.
If you want to wear the domes out and about (in situations where you won't move your arms too much and let out a huge dome-fart) then wearing a loose dress, shawl and large cardigan or coat makes you look fat / pregnant rather than deformed - I've done this with the narrow large domes and others have with wide medium. The XLs just look stupid but you shouldn't need them for a bit. Even in this 'disguise' you'd look funny to someone who knew you so you'll probably spend a lot of time locked up indoors - I'm thinking about taking a correspondence course!
All this said, my husand works abroad so I'm not getting out much anyway. I'm averaging 15 hours per night over nearly 13 weeks and had to leave off to fly out to visit him so they were off for over 30 hours and I seem to have 0.75 inch extra remaining after that time so hope something's happening. I'm aiming for 26 weeks, 4 month break then another 26 weeks if I got at least in inch the first time. Someone on another forum used on and off for 3-4 years and got 3-4 inches which is amazing so gives us all hope.
Good luck girls, keep us posted as to how you get on x
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Julie
(no login) Re: social life October 4 2007, 8:42 AM
I don't see how you can really expect to conceal this from anyone. I had blisters which hurt when they were touched and a rash later on which I also didn't want touching. Assuming they could be hidden in the dark, you might still need to guide someone on where to touch and where not to touch. Too much touching in the wrong place could be seriously painful. You really don't want to find a blister being rubbed by someone.
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Louise
(Login Louise1982)
SENIOR MEMBER Re: social life October 4 2007, 9:59 AM
Well boob-squeezing is definitely off and pressing them hard against his chest hurts if either you just took the domes off or have very big swelling and the bigger they are the more he'll probably mess about with them!
Edit Message Delete Message
livinonaprayer
(no login) Re: social life October 4 2007, 2:34 PM
I wore wide large domes and you CANNOT hide them. I about cried when I opened the box and saw how huge they are and realized you can't leave your house in them. I wouldn't even consider wearing them around my house in front of anyone but my immediate family. If someone drops by, you probably want to hide unless you don't mind them seeing you with torpedos under your shirt. I could only wear a baggy men's extra large T-shirt over mine. I would not wear this in nice weather and be confined to the house again (wore from April - June last time). I like to go outside and be active. With that being said, I will start a second cycle from December - April and not be as obsessive about getting in mega hours. I was happy with my results which were bascially being more filled out and lifted. I plan on wearing from about 7:00 p.m. - 7:00 a.m. next time and a few hours longer when I can. You cannot cuddle while wearing the domes or pick up a child. You definitely have to sleep on your back too. I did not have any skin problems but I also did not use extra suction - only the sportbox attached and I used skin prep and dome cleanser. You do get used to it and looking back I think it's worth it if you don't let it interefere with your life too much. I am married with two kids and we stay home in the evenings a lot and hang out together with most errands and activities in early evening so this did not interfere with my social life outside the home. I don't know about dating. The "footprint or outline" from the domes remained on me for several hours. Even though my husband and I both loved the morning swelling, I did not go around with tight shirts because I didn't want to look like I obviously deflated throughout the day. I think I will be more likely to show off "my final results" and keep the "swelled" look in the bedroom. Also, I don't think Brava is being accurate about later you have a greater proportion of true growth to swelling. Swelling is huge and I don't believe most people keep that amount of growth otherwise there would be photos showing it. If you took a photo of yourself when the domes come off, it would look like a boob job, but it doesn't last all day. It gradually shrinks. It's all in your expectations. I do believe you get growth, but you need to be happy with probably not getting a significant amount. In my case I was saggy and deflated from pregnancy, weight loss, and breastfeeding. Brava "fills in the gaps" so it is more noticeable to say yourself and your significant other. I also don't believe Brava when they say that when you see the breast size you've always wanted when you put the domes back on, you're half way there. It is a process that takes time and in my case it was just gradual growth over the 11 weeks. You should definitely take before pictures so you can see where you started out because all the swelling and deflating make you forget where you were. It is worth it when you're done IF you were persistent and wear it everyday because when you've completed that cycle, you keep your growth and you can build on it again later or be happy with what you've attained and all the aggravation is behind you. Just don't let it ruin your relationships by avoiding friends or family. If this boyfriend is special to you, you might want to fess up to what you're doing. Just don't let it control your time. Try to wear it when you're at home or sleeping anyway. Also, exercise, eat right, and take care of yourself so that whatever you end up with, at least you're in good shape.
Good luck!!
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Louise
(no login) Re: social life October 4 2007, 3:31 PM
I agree with most of that but remember you have to put in the hours to get any result otherwise you'll just be wasting the time you do spend. If you want a boost for an evening there are cheaper machines that will give swelling quicker. I stayed with hubby for 2 weeks (he works abroad) and was hoping to put it on when he went to sleep and take it off before he came home from work so getting 18 hours per day, but if I made any movement in the night it let out a huge farting noise and disturbed his sleep so he banned them and I didn't go all that way after not seeing him for 3 months to sleep on the couch - even just turning slighly so I could put my leg next to him was enough to break the seal, you need to be very much alone unfortunately.
Edit Message Delete Message
Bex
(no login) Re: social life October 4 2007, 10:10 PM
I am currently seeing someone, but he has been abroad for the past 6 weeks so I've managed to get in some good hours without him. Otherwise it really would have been tricky.
I work full-time, so do approx 8pm-8am every weeknight, 8pm-2pm Friday to Sat (so I can go out on Sat night) and 2am-4pm Sat to Sun. If I see the boy I keep the domes on until about 8pm on Sat night and then make an excuse as to why I need to leave at 8am in the morning. It is very difficult.
In short: no, you really can't. I am at week 9 and, looking back, just don't know how I've done it. Am going to struggle on for another month and then jack it in. It will be like leaving prison.
Why not see this guy for a while, and if he doesn't have a problem with your breasts, there's probably no need for Brava anyway. I think us women are far more obsessed with size than they are!
But whatever you decided... good luck!
x
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dandelion
(Login dandelion1) Re: social life October 27 2007, 6:59 AM
thanks everyone for your responses
I do have high hopes, but at the same time I've hear horror stories (lots of wear, no gain, bad rashes all at once). I'm in for the long run (or at least as long as my domes last me). I will weart them consistently whenever I'm at home and overnight when sleeping at home, until i read a 34C and I realize that this might take me a while. I read that a lady on another forum got 3-4 inches in 3-4 years of on-off wear. If thats what it takes I'm ready (unless celution becomes available, then I'm just gonna for that). reading all your posts made me realize that I can't get too optimistic, so thanks for the reality
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Stephanie
(no login) Re: social life October 27 2007, 7:39 AM
You are not supposed to have a social life whilst using Brava. It's something you put on hold until Brava is over with.
Edit Message Delete Message
Louise
(Login Louise1982)
SENIOR MEMBER Re: social life October 27 2007, 7:37 PM
Dandelion, Celution is available in Japan for 12k - see posts on the surgery forum. I would consider celution as a last resort but someone said they can come out lumpy. On the bright side I'm also aiming for 34C (or equivalent 32D as I'm a small person) and the last 2 days I feel that I'm beginning to see a definite increase remaining at the end of the day (on week 17, averaging 15hrs per day so just past 1700) and once you get past the crappy 'new' stage where it's all itchy and nothing to see you get used to it. I want to do 2x 6 month sessions separated by 4 month break. If I have no growth after that I'll assume it's not going to work but feeling positive at the moment (and I've lost 15 lbs since starting Brava so lucky not to be even smaller!). Stay motivated!