15-11-2010, 04:36
Hi searching.
I will probably get into trouble with someone, maybe you, for this but...
This guy is taking advantage of you. You don't rate very high on his list of people in his life who deserves to be treated fairly with some respect. He probably feels that no matter what he does. He can get away with it because he thinks you are dependent on him.
I , a guy, says to look around. I know you feel that you love him. But love from one side, nonreciprocating , is not a good form of love. You say that you don't want to cut off all contact. So don't. But, don't make him a priority in your life anymore. Only send maybe one or two messages a day and make them just very general about your day. I have had best friends over the years and like everything in life. They come and go. But we are still friends.
There are a lot of great guys out there. Start going out with your other friends and expand your interests. Find a new hobby. Make time to just be with yourself. You may find a new "guy" friend who will treat you like the special person you are. As for your current best friend, well, he may have to decide to re-evaluate his attitude. If he wants to keep you strongly in his life, then he may have to grow up a little. If he blows you off, maybe it wasn't meant to be anyway.
Oh, BTW I happened to have been an asshole with a superiority complex and a hair trigger temper, as well, or least I used to be. Been trying to change that the last few years as life is hard enough without carrying around a chip on my shoulder. Your guy knows the way he acts toward you is wrong. That is why he comes up with fuzzy logic to excuse himself and passes the blame onto you. Where you are concerned he feels empowered to act badly. And yes, probably enjoys it some to degree. Let him see that his attitude will no longer fly and that while you would like to have in your life. He is no longer the center of it. If he bolts or drifts, I think, you are better off. Just my opinion, Just sayin....Gonna shut my gob now.
I will probably get into trouble with someone, maybe you, for this but...
This guy is taking advantage of you. You don't rate very high on his list of people in his life who deserves to be treated fairly with some respect. He probably feels that no matter what he does. He can get away with it because he thinks you are dependent on him.
I , a guy, says to look around. I know you feel that you love him. But love from one side, nonreciprocating , is not a good form of love. You say that you don't want to cut off all contact. So don't. But, don't make him a priority in your life anymore. Only send maybe one or two messages a day and make them just very general about your day. I have had best friends over the years and like everything in life. They come and go. But we are still friends.
There are a lot of great guys out there. Start going out with your other friends and expand your interests. Find a new hobby. Make time to just be with yourself. You may find a new "guy" friend who will treat you like the special person you are. As for your current best friend, well, he may have to decide to re-evaluate his attitude. If he wants to keep you strongly in his life, then he may have to grow up a little. If he blows you off, maybe it wasn't meant to be anyway.
Oh, BTW I happened to have been an asshole with a superiority complex and a hair trigger temper, as well, or least I used to be. Been trying to change that the last few years as life is hard enough without carrying around a chip on my shoulder. Your guy knows the way he acts toward you is wrong. That is why he comes up with fuzzy logic to excuse himself and passes the blame onto you. Where you are concerned he feels empowered to act badly. And yes, probably enjoys it some to degree. Let him see that his attitude will no longer fly and that while you would like to have in your life. He is no longer the center of it. If he bolts or drifts, I think, you are better off. Just my opinion, Just sayin....Gonna shut my gob now.