[Bustyprincess]

I think it’s a difficult topic because the real answer is somewhere part way in between the extremes.  So if someone tells you boobs don’t really matter and you know that isn’t true, it’s tempting to go to the other extreme which is more wrong.  The truth is they matter, but less than many other things.  And everyone male and female has different preferences.  But generally people like to see or have some boobs, most enjoy seeing any size as long as they’re there (even a revealing outfit on A/B cup gets lots of  attention), but also most care more about other things.  I think the key is to likewise prioritize multiple more important things but still spend a little time on boobs: whether nbe or just outfits that show them off or make them seem larger.  But prioritize work, school, charity, fun, dating if you plan on it (including before nbe progress), etc.

Im sorry but I sorta feel it wrong of you as just a straight cis male to be telling this girl that clearly struggles with major body issues and BDD that she "SHOULD focus on her breasts" SHOULD "focus on nbe" and that "breasts do matter" when clearly she needs to be focusing on her mental wellbeing first and foremost, as you are a straight male saying this it is coming off very sexist inclined and with no interest into her true wellbeing. Just MO. Yes big boobs are great I love mine but they are pointless if your mental health is suffering and also a woman is A LOT more than a pair of breasts.

I don’t want to get sucked into an argument that doesn’t even involve me, but I think he was very careful about what he said. I agree with what he said and I’m a woman. Why should it matter which one of us said it? I don’t really like my appearance but I don’t have body dysmorphia, so I can’t help her as much as someone who has actually overcome it. We are all just trying to help because she seems so distressed. Maybe we’re going about in the wrong way, but we are not psychologists.

Also no "arguing" here on my end simply pointing out the richness of the comment and that she needs help to love herself not be told "yes great you dont like yourself and are suffering with an all over self love issue, keep focusing on nbe put that first" women are more than boobs and theres no point improving a body part if you have underlying issues which will likely be there after still. I know her pain BDD and self love issues suck and can leave you feeling constantly defeated.

He didn’t say to put NBE first. He very clearly said that she should put it last, and prioritize more important things. Granted, maybe it would be in her best interest not to do NBE at all, but she has decided to do it anyway, and she’s an adult. I don’t mean  to attack you. That’s not what’s intended, but I do want to defend Joe, because he’s been pretty damn helpful throughout the years and he’s been respectful about it as well.

All good.... Maybe it just came across wrong to me. A misunderstanding on my part. I am just very defensive of those who are vulnerable with mental health as again I know the struggle all too well and its painful. All in all I hope she finds peace with herself and sees just how amazing and unique she is!  " alt="" title=""> its great to improve on yourself physically but the mind should be put first and foremost because if the mind isnt clear and healthy the body cant truly be focused on.