05-03-2011, 05:26
Hi. I am posting a reply mainly because nobody else has, and I'm sure you are going crazy waiting for someone to respond, I know I would be.
Now, first I would like to say I am fairly new to "natural breast enhancement" or nbe as most people call it for short.
However, it is quite obvious by the things you have found in his room, the fact that your son has breasts was no "freak of nature" type deal. He has worked hard for them, sounds like he has done his homework and has all the necessary tools to acquire them.
Maybe this was something he had been doing for a long period of time and that is also why he went through a late puberty. In any case, you say you do not pass judgement on transsexuals or cross dressers so you are not sure why your son would hide it from you... You may not pass judgement, yet he is your son, so with him, he probably feels much differently about that.
I am a female, yet I hide very carefully the steps I have taken to grow bigger breasts from my friends and family due to the humiliation of A) It not working and wasting so much money, and B) Having to admit that under my very padded bras are pretty tiny boobs
I have kids as well, although they are much younger than yours (3 and 1) I know how I would feel, it's just a mother instinct to think you should always know 100% what is going on with them and if something seems out of sorts. I'm sure many men try and hide things like this from their family at least for a period of time.
I do know that some of the things you mentioned are estrogen based hormones that will cause breast growth over time, and of course the pump would have no other use than to create breast swelling/growth. The pictures on the computer are obviously there because your son took them because he was proud of his success with his growth~ some women cannot achieve growth that great!
You say you are worried he may have caused permanent damage or have affected his health in a negative way... I say he has done the research if he is possibly a c-cup and he must be quite aware of what he wants. Are you more concerned that he wants possibly to be a woman, is possibly gay, or that he never opened up to you? My concern would be as one you mentioned: how could this have been going on for so long and I never knew??? However, if he wanted to hide it from you, trust me, you would have had no way of knowing! You are not a terrible mother. I think you are great for both giving your adult son space, and trying to seek advice before doing anything drastic.
Here is what I would do: If you are truly ok with the fact your son wants to be this way (gay, transsexual, cross-dresser, woman, etc) then write him a letter. (I know that he lives with you, but it may be awkward for both of you to approach him in person) tell him what you found. Tell him you wished he would have told you, but you understand why he felt he couldn't. Tell him you will love him regardless and that when he is ready to talk about it that you will be ready with open arms as his mother to listen and to accept what he chooses as his lifestyle. Leave it taped to his door when you will be out for a while. Let him read it and have a chance to let it soak in. Then, leave it at that. Let him come to you.
I know I have not been much help as for as telling you any medical info regarding the drugs he has taken to grow breasts and if it will be permanant or if it will affect his health, etc, but, if you need someone to talk to or vent to, I'm here... I hope everything goes well for you with all of this
Now, first I would like to say I am fairly new to "natural breast enhancement" or nbe as most people call it for short.
However, it is quite obvious by the things you have found in his room, the fact that your son has breasts was no "freak of nature" type deal. He has worked hard for them, sounds like he has done his homework and has all the necessary tools to acquire them.
Maybe this was something he had been doing for a long period of time and that is also why he went through a late puberty. In any case, you say you do not pass judgement on transsexuals or cross dressers so you are not sure why your son would hide it from you... You may not pass judgement, yet he is your son, so with him, he probably feels much differently about that.
I am a female, yet I hide very carefully the steps I have taken to grow bigger breasts from my friends and family due to the humiliation of A) It not working and wasting so much money, and B) Having to admit that under my very padded bras are pretty tiny boobs
I have kids as well, although they are much younger than yours (3 and 1) I know how I would feel, it's just a mother instinct to think you should always know 100% what is going on with them and if something seems out of sorts. I'm sure many men try and hide things like this from their family at least for a period of time.
I do know that some of the things you mentioned are estrogen based hormones that will cause breast growth over time, and of course the pump would have no other use than to create breast swelling/growth. The pictures on the computer are obviously there because your son took them because he was proud of his success with his growth~ some women cannot achieve growth that great!
You say you are worried he may have caused permanent damage or have affected his health in a negative way... I say he has done the research if he is possibly a c-cup and he must be quite aware of what he wants. Are you more concerned that he wants possibly to be a woman, is possibly gay, or that he never opened up to you? My concern would be as one you mentioned: how could this have been going on for so long and I never knew??? However, if he wanted to hide it from you, trust me, you would have had no way of knowing! You are not a terrible mother. I think you are great for both giving your adult son space, and trying to seek advice before doing anything drastic.
Here is what I would do: If you are truly ok with the fact your son wants to be this way (gay, transsexual, cross-dresser, woman, etc) then write him a letter. (I know that he lives with you, but it may be awkward for both of you to approach him in person) tell him what you found. Tell him you wished he would have told you, but you understand why he felt he couldn't. Tell him you will love him regardless and that when he is ready to talk about it that you will be ready with open arms as his mother to listen and to accept what he chooses as his lifestyle. Leave it taped to his door when you will be out for a while. Let him read it and have a chance to let it soak in. Then, leave it at that. Let him come to you.
I know I have not been much help as for as telling you any medical info regarding the drugs he has taken to grow breasts and if it will be permanant or if it will affect his health, etc, but, if you need someone to talk to or vent to, I'm here... I hope everything goes well for you with all of this