06-03-2011, 03:30
lovingmum, I am a mother of a 6 year old son, and I can only imagine what you are feeling and thinking. Growing up around gays and transgenders and being bisexual myself I am probably more open minded then most parents. I myself would be more hurt that he kept it from me like you are. But you have to think of it from his side of things. If he is gay, transsexual or just simply wanted to grow breasts, how could he possibly explain that to you? It would be incredibly embarrassing for him. Also listening to you now wanting to reverse this, it sounds to me like if he is one of the forementioned, you want to reverse it and "fix" him. This is hurtful for even me as I've had to keep the fact I'm attracted to females from my own mother and family because they would say the same things, that I need to be "fixed". You need to accept that this is the way he is. Cheryl1989 on here was a born male, she started her journey a male, in his 20's and wasn't gay or transsexual, yet for some reason or another wanted to grow breasts. I think she of all people could tell you what your son is thinking and going through. I think you going to him wanting to reverse this and change him is the worst thing you can do!
Yes some methods of NBE can hurt his development, but if he's wanting to be female, then it won't. I think you going to him trying to change him and reverse what he's worked hard for will only push him away and make him resent you. You need to accept him, no matter what. It's obvious he's done his research as lorajean said and knew what he was doing. So he's definitely worked hard for this. Yes I do know some ways the breasts can be reverse and minimized but I think he needs to make the decision himself if he wants to reverse it and not have breasts. Now why he could take pics is the reason we do here, to mark our progress. Now you said he is taking PM, he will need to take a maintenance dose to keep what he's gained from it, otherwise it does go down, the effects of PM are not permanent. As far as how long he's been doing this can all vary, some people have drastic result from NBE and can grow that size within months, others it takes years, so who really knows how long he has been doing this.
I think the suggestion lorajean made about the letter is a good idea, but as I said be open, don't try to change him, let him come to you and talk. Find out exactly why he wants to do this first. Hope this helps and good luck!
Yes some methods of NBE can hurt his development, but if he's wanting to be female, then it won't. I think you going to him trying to change him and reverse what he's worked hard for will only push him away and make him resent you. You need to accept him, no matter what. It's obvious he's done his research as lorajean said and knew what he was doing. So he's definitely worked hard for this. Yes I do know some ways the breasts can be reverse and minimized but I think he needs to make the decision himself if he wants to reverse it and not have breasts. Now why he could take pics is the reason we do here, to mark our progress. Now you said he is taking PM, he will need to take a maintenance dose to keep what he's gained from it, otherwise it does go down, the effects of PM are not permanent. As far as how long he's been doing this can all vary, some people have drastic result from NBE and can grow that size within months, others it takes years, so who really knows how long he has been doing this.
I think the suggestion lorajean made about the letter is a good idea, but as I said be open, don't try to change him, let him come to you and talk. Find out exactly why he wants to do this first. Hope this helps and good luck!