06-03-2011, 19:14
I can't imagine how you would feel because I don't have children, but I know that as someone's child, I would want my mother to have an open mind and not try to change who I am for her personal beliefs. You're not a terrible mother and don't let yourself think that. Some children just aren't close to their parents- I'm not, but I would never say that I had a terrible mother. You need to take a step back and calm down about this before you approach him, if you decide to. Crying or arguing when you talk to him will only make him believe that you are closing your mind and will push him away. He's not doing this just to spite you. At least you didn't find crack or meth in his room, right?
Oh and I hate when my mom tells me the whole "you're only __ years old and you've got your whole life ahead of you" line. Sorry. Just thought I'd let you know so you don't say that to him. He knows, and saying that will only make you look like you're patronizing him.
Whether he comes to you first or you decide to talk to him first, you need to let him know that you still love him and will love him no matter what, and that you just want to understand why he's made the decision that he has.
Oh and I hate when my mom tells me the whole "you're only __ years old and you've got your whole life ahead of you" line. Sorry. Just thought I'd let you know so you don't say that to him. He knows, and saying that will only make you look like you're patronizing him.
Whether he comes to you first or you decide to talk to him first, you need to let him know that you still love him and will love him no matter what, and that you just want to understand why he's made the decision that he has.