16-03-2011, 02:49
Hi Cinderella
Your impression was probably right! The thing with guys is though (and this will sound terribly old fashioned but I´ve found it´s true) that they like to take the first step. If you don´t let them call or mail you first, they tend to think "what´s wrong with this girl that she has to go after a guy herself?" and they become suspicious because you come across as desperate.
Believe me, I wouldn´t think like that and I think it´s perfectly reasonable to send someone you like a message, but I´ve tested this theory and it really does work. When I don´t do anything about a guy I like he´ll be calling almost daily, but if I do send him a message first it´s like I´m not as interesting to him anymore. There is this thing of the chase that men like, especially in the beginning. And if you remain passive in the beginning it´s very flattering when someone makes an effort to get in touch with you or to see you, while it sucks when they´re not responsive when you do take an initiative with someone.
Of course it could be something else but that would be my interpretation of the situation.
Hope that clears things up some!
Your impression was probably right! The thing with guys is though (and this will sound terribly old fashioned but I´ve found it´s true) that they like to take the first step. If you don´t let them call or mail you first, they tend to think "what´s wrong with this girl that she has to go after a guy herself?" and they become suspicious because you come across as desperate.
Believe me, I wouldn´t think like that and I think it´s perfectly reasonable to send someone you like a message, but I´ve tested this theory and it really does work. When I don´t do anything about a guy I like he´ll be calling almost daily, but if I do send him a message first it´s like I´m not as interesting to him anymore. There is this thing of the chase that men like, especially in the beginning. And if you remain passive in the beginning it´s very flattering when someone makes an effort to get in touch with you or to see you, while it sucks when they´re not responsive when you do take an initiative with someone.
Of course it could be something else but that would be my interpretation of the situation.
Hope that clears things up some!