[lorajean101]

I'd like to assume you posted that as more of a venting technique than actually wanting advice. Why, being a girl, would you even CONSIDER screwing around with a man that you already KNOW has a girlfriend??!! Have some respect for her and for yourself. These guys both sound like jackasses and both treat you like dirt. Some girls, I hear, like to be treated this way due to lack of self worth. You seem smarter than that because you are apparently attempting to break the cycle by reaching out and sharing your story with the hopes someone can advise you to do the common sense thing that you obviously see, but cannot bring yourself to admit.
Ditch both of these guys and find someone decent. You say you risk the "gossip" in your small hometown? You don't think there would be gossip over some chick nailing 2 douche bag dudes - one that is a younger guy and the other involved with someone else?! I'd be gossiping about you and I'm not typically a gossip. If you are actually interested in one of these men, you need to put your foot down and tell them that unless they choose to treat you with respect then you are not willing to be a part of their lives... oh, and the guy with the girlfriend needs to choose you or her. If you try and "tattle" to his girlfriend, it makes you look like the ass, not him. Much more of the population almost expect guys to do stupid shit including being a liar and cheater. You, on the other hand, will be the one looked down upon, it sucks but that's the reality of life. I wish you the best in your situation.