09-05-2011, 02:54
What you should be wondering isn´t what goes on in these guys minds (or what happens with the girlfriends), but what goes on in yours!
Why would you want to be treated like that? Do you think this is the nearest possible thing you´ll ever get to being loved?
Because to be honest, this is the complete opposite, you´d feel much better if you weren´t "loved" in this way at all.
You know, until you decide you want the real thing - love, respect and a positive relationship with someone - you´ll continue attracting these idiots, because guys can detect a girl who´ll put up with anything from miles away. Meanwhile, the nice ones stay away because they are attracted to girls who love themselves (or who pretend to do so, at least).
My advice would be to stop all contact with both these guys, just ignore them like you would ignore an ant or some other invisible bug. If they become agressive, tell them you got engaged or whatever if necessary. Then, concentrate on your self worth, just act like a woman you respect would, go through the motions until it feels natural. Be more choosy when a guy approaches you, make him prove he´s worth your time, that way he´ll be much likely to treat you with respect and you´ll feel better about yourself too. As an experiment, hold off from going to bed with someone until he is officially your boyfriend (the sex will be much better, believe me!).
And don´t contact any girlfriend, that´s just asking for trouble and it isn´t a very dignified thing to do.
Why would you want to be treated like that? Do you think this is the nearest possible thing you´ll ever get to being loved?
Because to be honest, this is the complete opposite, you´d feel much better if you weren´t "loved" in this way at all.
You know, until you decide you want the real thing - love, respect and a positive relationship with someone - you´ll continue attracting these idiots, because guys can detect a girl who´ll put up with anything from miles away. Meanwhile, the nice ones stay away because they are attracted to girls who love themselves (or who pretend to do so, at least).
My advice would be to stop all contact with both these guys, just ignore them like you would ignore an ant or some other invisible bug. If they become agressive, tell them you got engaged or whatever if necessary. Then, concentrate on your self worth, just act like a woman you respect would, go through the motions until it feels natural. Be more choosy when a guy approaches you, make him prove he´s worth your time, that way he´ll be much likely to treat you with respect and you´ll feel better about yourself too. As an experiment, hold off from going to bed with someone until he is officially your boyfriend (the sex will be much better, believe me!).
And don´t contact any girlfriend, that´s just asking for trouble and it isn´t a very dignified thing to do.