[fembeast83]

Guys have a funny kind of ego sometimes, they like it when they can have some effort in connecting without seeming imposible, but when she shows "too much interest" i believe the same kinda panic response occurs in men as does in women just a little deeper in the emotional psyche, since as men they try to repress emotion or at least their display of being affected, than it would for woman overly hit on though differences occur in the backstage connection to this panic as girls/women will think its to get in their pants or cause of big boobs or to later humilate/use where guys react by wondering is there something wrong with her that no one else wants, is she clingy needy and/or controlling would they be getting in over their head with the perceived relationship degree almost like the sudden over attraction causes a reversal of their ego (before it was large thinking they get women by persuasion then when one appears instantly head of heals with any effort or attempt to get that particular women interested, its like whats with her she don't know me yet and she wants me (they can also feel like it can't be real or a sudden temporary i don't deserve this) just as women feel similar to a man's overprompt display of attraction. Sometimes the differences we create are circumstantial and/or fictiously exaggerated. The male macho mask has made that basic discovery difficult, why the still dwindling around 50s iconoclastic role of the proper woman further creates artificial distance and difference to the mechanisms of attraction between the genders. Not to say we are quite the same but certainly more similar than society would make us believe which is only based on tradition set by some person who claims to have the absolute answers (this can work for religion as well but i'm not going to sail that boat here) HOPE THAT HELPS
my philosphy has mostly always been all things are relative since we are not gods we cannot know the absolutes only relative perspective which gets into the whole follower versus leader stuff. So i would say your impression/approach just needs minor tuning.
Let them know your interested but without smothering them or appear a lack of interest or mistaken prudishness. This is well enough approximated by swinging up like a fast moving friendship but giving ample space to find comfort for both of you since we don't constantly communicate are exact status at the moment like part of operating system would constantly talk with the part to keep it informed to prevent damaging miscommunication, etc. we are not machines so establishing perceptual feedback can be tricky its a little etheric in nature so fine tuning your instints are a must as is getting well in tune with the person your after. Good Luck