20-06-2011, 18:25
Girl, you really must love him 
No, you are not being unreasonable. A little more feminism would do great things for you. I'm a 50 year old man and even I would be offended. Do not underestimate what a daily insult will do to your self esteem in the long run. If I were his dad, I'd really tell him. And I would like to beg you to get out of there, before this treatment leaves you with no more power than a small child. You have no idea how long it will take a good therapist to help you get over this.
OK, that's out. Sorry for venting. I really do feel sorry. You must feel really awful. You can't live with this. You don't want to leave him either. So indeed, what can you do? When you talk to him about it, focus on the behavior (him not taking them down), and tell him how it makes you feel. Continue with the dilemma you are in, that he's leaving you no choice. Then the hard part: try not to make a power struggle out of it. If he doesn't come around, repeat.
If he is really out to damage your self-esteem systematically, to take control over you in an abusive relationship, leave him yesterday. I know it's going to hurt, and I don't know how much power he already has over you. Round up your friends for support. Anything I can do?
No, you are not being unreasonable. A little more feminism would do great things for you. I'm a 50 year old man and even I would be offended. Do not underestimate what a daily insult will do to your self esteem in the long run. If I were his dad, I'd really tell him. And I would like to beg you to get out of there, before this treatment leaves you with no more power than a small child. You have no idea how long it will take a good therapist to help you get over this.
OK, that's out. Sorry for venting. I really do feel sorry. You must feel really awful. You can't live with this. You don't want to leave him either. So indeed, what can you do? When you talk to him about it, focus on the behavior (him not taking them down), and tell him how it makes you feel. Continue with the dilemma you are in, that he's leaving you no choice. Then the hard part: try not to make a power struggle out of it. If he doesn't come around, repeat.
If he is really out to damage your self-esteem systematically, to take control over you in an abusive relationship, leave him yesterday. I know it's going to hurt, and I don't know how much power he already has over you. Round up your friends for support. Anything I can do?