31-07-2011, 00:39
Even though Wahaika's words were rather harsh, I kind of have to agree.
It's my belief that there is a perfect match for every person in the world and that you'll find yours eventually. If there's something that doesn't seem right about a relationship, you should move on and find that perfect person for you rather than force your idea of perfection on someone that's trying to resist change (especially such a small change as taking posters down).
You said your boyfriend was angry about having to take the posters down and felt like you were disrespecting his freedom. That's really immature for anyone to say and makes me think of children on the playground shouting, "you can't make me, it's a free country!" You said he does nothing for your self esteem, in fact, it seems like he's lowering your self esteem. This is an unhealthy relationship. If things are getting to the point where the littlest things become the biggest issue, then you're subconsciously just looking for a way out. I know you love him and this will sound cliche, but you need to love yourself more and just leave him. He's not worth the arguments. Can you imagine yourself marrying him and living with him for the rest of your life? Living with the posters and the tactless comments? You will find someone better.
Again, these are only my opinions and I just hope to give you something to consider. I'm not personally very experienced in relationships, but I do hear a lot from friends who come crying to me about their problems and I've learned that it's all about following your instincts.
It's my belief that there is a perfect match for every person in the world and that you'll find yours eventually. If there's something that doesn't seem right about a relationship, you should move on and find that perfect person for you rather than force your idea of perfection on someone that's trying to resist change (especially such a small change as taking posters down).
You said your boyfriend was angry about having to take the posters down and felt like you were disrespecting his freedom. That's really immature for anyone to say and makes me think of children on the playground shouting, "you can't make me, it's a free country!" You said he does nothing for your self esteem, in fact, it seems like he's lowering your self esteem. This is an unhealthy relationship. If things are getting to the point where the littlest things become the biggest issue, then you're subconsciously just looking for a way out. I know you love him and this will sound cliche, but you need to love yourself more and just leave him. He's not worth the arguments. Can you imagine yourself marrying him and living with him for the rest of your life? Living with the posters and the tactless comments? You will find someone better.
Again, these are only my opinions and I just hope to give you something to consider. I'm not personally very experienced in relationships, but I do hear a lot from friends who come crying to me about their problems and I've learned that it's all about following your instincts.