04-10-2011, 19:52
(This post was last modified: 04-10-2011, 19:56 by Run.Rabbit.)
Hi all,
So I'm having an issue with the boyfriend, but I don't want to talk to my close friends about it because I know what they'll say. We've been together for a little over 5 months and I'm kind of looking for an unbiased opinion...
The story:
We all went to a strip club, which I have no problem with. Within ten minutes he comes up to me and says "Hey I'm gonna go to the VIP room" so of course, I'm already mad at this point. He left me with his friends to go get a lap dance in the VIP room. He comes back, sits next to me and starts talking about how "she said that I could f*ck her for ten bucks. I thought about it." (He says he did nothing) I'm, of course, livid at this point.
I kind of get over it the next day, we have a great Sunday together and then I went home. Yesterday, I started thinking about it again. The big problems are: Why did he even ask her how much it would cost, and why in the hell did he even consider it for a second? Another problem is: He has told me a couple times about how much he'd like to have sex with a black girl. (And I have no problem with that, it just makes me feel insecure because I'm not). The stripper that he took back in to the VIP was black so...is that how he was going to get what he wanted?
When I confronted him about it last night, I told him that I was breaking up with him. He begged me not to, he cried, blahblah. I asked him those questions and he said that he took her back there because he wanted to see if she would do it and he said that he didn't know why he considered doing it. He said maybe because he was drunk on tequila and had a moment of weakness. I said that's no excuse. He said that he was also kind of joking about that, and didn't REALLY want to do anything but I'm having a hard time believing that just because this would be one of his fantasies. He says that he loves me, he's said it many times before this happened. I believed it then, but it's hard to believe it now. When you love someone, I don't feel as though you take a stripper to the VIP room to see if she'll bang you. He keeps telling me how it'll never happen again, and how he doesn't want to lose me, blahblah.
I feel as though this is pretty damn close to cheating.
What do I do??
So I'm having an issue with the boyfriend, but I don't want to talk to my close friends about it because I know what they'll say. We've been together for a little over 5 months and I'm kind of looking for an unbiased opinion...
The story:
We all went to a strip club, which I have no problem with. Within ten minutes he comes up to me and says "Hey I'm gonna go to the VIP room" so of course, I'm already mad at this point. He left me with his friends to go get a lap dance in the VIP room. He comes back, sits next to me and starts talking about how "she said that I could f*ck her for ten bucks. I thought about it." (He says he did nothing) I'm, of course, livid at this point.
I kind of get over it the next day, we have a great Sunday together and then I went home. Yesterday, I started thinking about it again. The big problems are: Why did he even ask her how much it would cost, and why in the hell did he even consider it for a second? Another problem is: He has told me a couple times about how much he'd like to have sex with a black girl. (And I have no problem with that, it just makes me feel insecure because I'm not). The stripper that he took back in to the VIP was black so...is that how he was going to get what he wanted?
When I confronted him about it last night, I told him that I was breaking up with him. He begged me not to, he cried, blahblah. I asked him those questions and he said that he took her back there because he wanted to see if she would do it and he said that he didn't know why he considered doing it. He said maybe because he was drunk on tequila and had a moment of weakness. I said that's no excuse. He said that he was also kind of joking about that, and didn't REALLY want to do anything but I'm having a hard time believing that just because this would be one of his fantasies. He says that he loves me, he's said it many times before this happened. I believed it then, but it's hard to believe it now. When you love someone, I don't feel as though you take a stripper to the VIP room to see if she'll bang you. He keeps telling me how it'll never happen again, and how he doesn't want to lose me, blahblah.
I feel as though this is pretty damn close to cheating.
What do I do??