04-10-2011, 20:28
Hi Run.Rabbit,
I think it's two different things. You are right you confronted him. Made clear that you will not tolerate this in your relationship. And then think about why this happened.
When you have made your position clear, it's a good thing to understand that these girls do not go into into a VIP room unarmed. Read a little on the forum of blackhairmedia.com, and you will understand that they put a lot of effort in looks. That forum got me into maca. I have a lot of teaser gear. I take good care of my skin and hair. Know all the teases and poses. Don't forget about perfume, lighting, and music.
I never went to a strip club myself: it's not that common out here. But when I was still going out in drag, there was a stripper girl among the public at our parties every week-end. She worked in a strip club, and on a trip to NYC, her boyfriend took her to a club there (don't really know why BFs do that). She got a lap dance herself, and told me that girl was good, and she could perfectly understand why this got men so excited.
Once you know how the world of teasing and dancing and seduction works, you can ask yourself if this has a place in a relationship. Personally, I think porn is outdated since Ariel Levy's "Female Chauvinist Pigs", and lap dancing is not forever either. The burlesque parties took off over five years ago in London, and here in Amsterdam they're still doing well now. I personally think couples should stay out of strip clubs, and look for more refined alternatives, where there are rules about engaging with customers.
After all, the kick of "look-but-don't-touch" works both ways. I can understand your BF is mesmerized by a play of teasing and seduction, but the spell should have been broken immediately when she said she was there for the taking.
I think it's two different things. You are right you confronted him. Made clear that you will not tolerate this in your relationship. And then think about why this happened.
When you have made your position clear, it's a good thing to understand that these girls do not go into into a VIP room unarmed. Read a little on the forum of blackhairmedia.com, and you will understand that they put a lot of effort in looks. That forum got me into maca. I have a lot of teaser gear. I take good care of my skin and hair. Know all the teases and poses. Don't forget about perfume, lighting, and music.
I never went to a strip club myself: it's not that common out here. But when I was still going out in drag, there was a stripper girl among the public at our parties every week-end. She worked in a strip club, and on a trip to NYC, her boyfriend took her to a club there (don't really know why BFs do that). She got a lap dance herself, and told me that girl was good, and she could perfectly understand why this got men so excited.
Once you know how the world of teasing and dancing and seduction works, you can ask yourself if this has a place in a relationship. Personally, I think porn is outdated since Ariel Levy's "Female Chauvinist Pigs", and lap dancing is not forever either. The burlesque parties took off over five years ago in London, and here in Amsterdam they're still doing well now. I personally think couples should stay out of strip clubs, and look for more refined alternatives, where there are rules about engaging with customers.
After all, the kick of "look-but-don't-touch" works both ways. I can understand your BF is mesmerized by a play of teasing and seduction, but the spell should have been broken immediately when she said she was there for the taking.