26-10-2011, 23:56
I agree, and she´s probably frustrated about her own weight problems.
This must be especially hard for you as she´s your mom, it´s kind of worse when a parent talks you down. The only thing I can add is: try not to take it personally, see is as a manifestation of her own unhappiness, not as something directed towards you in particular (easier said than done, I know!). I have the problem of a father with a very bad temper, so I can somehow relate to what you´re going through. He would say very insensitive and even cruel remarks and not even take notice. It took me a lot of years to see his negativity as separated from me, but it used to make me very insecure when he was venting, like somehow it was because there was something wrong with me, you know?
Anyway, hang in there, if you´re happy with your body it shouldn´t be anybody´s business!
This must be especially hard for you as she´s your mom, it´s kind of worse when a parent talks you down. The only thing I can add is: try not to take it personally, see is as a manifestation of her own unhappiness, not as something directed towards you in particular (easier said than done, I know!). I have the problem of a father with a very bad temper, so I can somehow relate to what you´re going through. He would say very insensitive and even cruel remarks and not even take notice. It took me a lot of years to see his negativity as separated from me, but it used to make me very insecure when he was venting, like somehow it was because there was something wrong with me, you know?
Anyway, hang in there, if you´re happy with your body it shouldn´t be anybody´s business!