06-11-2011, 22:49
Hi Amberd88
Well, as always in these things there´s a double standard, everyone feels entitled to flirt freely but won´t accept their boyfriend/girlfriend flirting with someone else.
Personally I wouldn´t worry about these messages, they seem pretty innocent, especially if she´s a lesbian. I think they´re just trying to look cool, you know, I think for a guy it´s some sort of an honor to talk like that with a girl who isn´t into men, something that would boost their ego. I can imagine him feeling proud of himself for this flirty conversation!
But anyway, whenever these things happen, try not to take it personal and ask yourself "hmm who am I going to flirt with now?" Not to rub it in his face, but just to feel good about yourself. I think there´s nothing wrong with harmless flirting, it´s a way to feel attractive and make the other person feel attractive as well.
I think the best you can do is let it go, don´t even mention it, that way you´ll come across as very secure and that´s really attractive to a guy. It´s also intriguing to him that you don´t care.
I once had a boyfriend who used to flirt with everyone. One time he was with this really hot girl when he was waiting for me, and afterwards he asked me if I had seen him with her. I was like "who? I didn´t notice really", and he started telling me "that really gorgeous blonde? you didn´t see her?". He was really disapointed because he was probably trying to boast about this girl. But it made him look at me with more respect because I didn´t let myself become insecure about myself because he was talking with her. Afterwards I privately had a good laugh about the way he looked at me when I told him I hadn´t seen any hot girl.
Well, as always in these things there´s a double standard, everyone feels entitled to flirt freely but won´t accept their boyfriend/girlfriend flirting with someone else.
Personally I wouldn´t worry about these messages, they seem pretty innocent, especially if she´s a lesbian. I think they´re just trying to look cool, you know, I think for a guy it´s some sort of an honor to talk like that with a girl who isn´t into men, something that would boost their ego. I can imagine him feeling proud of himself for this flirty conversation!
But anyway, whenever these things happen, try not to take it personal and ask yourself "hmm who am I going to flirt with now?" Not to rub it in his face, but just to feel good about yourself. I think there´s nothing wrong with harmless flirting, it´s a way to feel attractive and make the other person feel attractive as well.
I think the best you can do is let it go, don´t even mention it, that way you´ll come across as very secure and that´s really attractive to a guy. It´s also intriguing to him that you don´t care.
I once had a boyfriend who used to flirt with everyone. One time he was with this really hot girl when he was waiting for me, and afterwards he asked me if I had seen him with her. I was like "who? I didn´t notice really", and he started telling me "that really gorgeous blonde? you didn´t see her?". He was really disapointed because he was probably trying to boast about this girl. But it made him look at me with more respect because I didn´t let myself become insecure about myself because he was talking with her. Afterwards I privately had a good laugh about the way he looked at me when I told him I hadn´t seen any hot girl.