20-12-2011, 05:42
Well, it´s been a while since I posted this and things have evolved so I thought I´d give you all an update since you´ve been so nice replying to my worries.
The thing is, I thought contact with this guy would become less in time but it didn´t. I did get busy minding my own life and started on a new and fun job, so I think this took some pressure off the whole situation for me. Privately I also tried to focus on my own issues, which was a good thing.
But we just continued chatting, and also used a webcam to see each other. After a while our conversations became less cybersex-y and more emotionally intimate, I think. We talked about our fears regarding relationships and things like that. And after a lot of months we did get together in person and everything just went wonderful, and still does.
He told me that he is so happy we are taking things slow, that he feels really comfortable with the pace of our relationship and do I feel the same? Which is quite ironic because I´d been fretting all those months about things not going fast enough. But of course I said Yeah, whatever feels natural, I would never force things. Lol.
So anyway, looking back it´s quite a relief that things are heading in this direction.
I´m not sure if there´s something to be learned about my experience for all the others in this forum? Perhaps that slow but steady wins the race? (which also applies to nbe, lol)
Perhaps not to try to mold people into something you want but to focus on yourself instead? This situation really got me thinking about my own neediness and insecurities and I think I solved some issues I had. Not doing that would´ve been kinda unfair toward this guy and I really really like him.
The thing is, I thought contact with this guy would become less in time but it didn´t. I did get busy minding my own life and started on a new and fun job, so I think this took some pressure off the whole situation for me. Privately I also tried to focus on my own issues, which was a good thing.
But we just continued chatting, and also used a webcam to see each other. After a while our conversations became less cybersex-y and more emotionally intimate, I think. We talked about our fears regarding relationships and things like that. And after a lot of months we did get together in person and everything just went wonderful, and still does.
He told me that he is so happy we are taking things slow, that he feels really comfortable with the pace of our relationship and do I feel the same? Which is quite ironic because I´d been fretting all those months about things not going fast enough. But of course I said Yeah, whatever feels natural, I would never force things. Lol.
So anyway, looking back it´s quite a relief that things are heading in this direction.
I´m not sure if there´s something to be learned about my experience for all the others in this forum? Perhaps that slow but steady wins the race? (which also applies to nbe, lol)
Perhaps not to try to mold people into something you want but to focus on yourself instead? This situation really got me thinking about my own neediness and insecurities and I think I solved some issues I had. Not doing that would´ve been kinda unfair toward this guy and I really really like him.