04-01-2012, 06:26
(This post was last modified: 04-01-2012, 06:36 by MidwestGirl.)
Wahaika,
I come from a family of siblings and parents who vary dramatically in beliefs and looks. My mother is easy going and open, while my father tends to be more conservative. My sister is a designer-wearing girly girl, while my brother has experimented with a variety of body modifications. I sit somewhere in between. I spend time on my makeup and my style of dress is low key; jeans and cardigans. However, I have tattoos, had many piercings when I was younger, and have stretched my ears to a variety of sizes. This doesn't make me ugly or dirty or less of a person.
To compare something as dramatic as bulimia to a tattoo or piercing is beyond me. You act as though you get to decide what kind of body modification is tasteful. You are a supporter of NBE, obviously viewing it as a socially acceptable form of body modification, but men getting their ears pierced or women working out until they look like men is something you are less comfortable with. In a world of so much diversity is baffles me to meet people who are so quick to assume they get to set the standard of beauty. What may be extreme to you is probably very normal to someone else. I am sad because I don't feel that you have the ability to view everyone, no matter how they look, as equal. I think your idea of beauty is set in stone and those who don't look similar to you (i.e. those with tattoos, etc.) have little hope of being seen as beautiful by you and others like you.
What makes a beautiful person has nothing to do with the exterior. You don't have to want a tattoo, or even like the way they look, but I ask you to step back and look at these people without all of your preconceived notions. Please don't forget that NBE is just another form of body modification, it's changing what you were born with, absolutely no different than a tattoo. You view bigger breasts as beautiful while others view a piece of artwork on their skin as beautiful, there is no real difference. The problem lies in the set of standards that you apply to body modifications that help you decide what is too extreme. Please open your mind a little.
I hope you don't view this as rude as I am only trying to offer a different point of view.
I come from a family of siblings and parents who vary dramatically in beliefs and looks. My mother is easy going and open, while my father tends to be more conservative. My sister is a designer-wearing girly girl, while my brother has experimented with a variety of body modifications. I sit somewhere in between. I spend time on my makeup and my style of dress is low key; jeans and cardigans. However, I have tattoos, had many piercings when I was younger, and have stretched my ears to a variety of sizes. This doesn't make me ugly or dirty or less of a person.
To compare something as dramatic as bulimia to a tattoo or piercing is beyond me. You act as though you get to decide what kind of body modification is tasteful. You are a supporter of NBE, obviously viewing it as a socially acceptable form of body modification, but men getting their ears pierced or women working out until they look like men is something you are less comfortable with. In a world of so much diversity is baffles me to meet people who are so quick to assume they get to set the standard of beauty. What may be extreme to you is probably very normal to someone else. I am sad because I don't feel that you have the ability to view everyone, no matter how they look, as equal. I think your idea of beauty is set in stone and those who don't look similar to you (i.e. those with tattoos, etc.) have little hope of being seen as beautiful by you and others like you.
What makes a beautiful person has nothing to do with the exterior. You don't have to want a tattoo, or even like the way they look, but I ask you to step back and look at these people without all of your preconceived notions. Please don't forget that NBE is just another form of body modification, it's changing what you were born with, absolutely no different than a tattoo. You view bigger breasts as beautiful while others view a piece of artwork on their skin as beautiful, there is no real difference. The problem lies in the set of standards that you apply to body modifications that help you decide what is too extreme. Please open your mind a little.
I hope you don't view this as rude as I am only trying to offer a different point of view.