[Malina]

I think we're all insecure. Your friends included. People tend to pick on other people because it takes attention away from their short comings, at least for the moment and at least in their minds.

I'm 31 years old, I was teased quite a bit when I was younger about it. Well, it mostly came from boys who liked me though. Never from other girls, at least never to my face. As I got older that definitely went away. No one makes me feel bad about my body now, but that feeling of deficiency stayed, I guess. I do think that I'm doing this for myself.

The worst one was when I was 14, and this boy told me I was as flat as a boy when he saw me in a bathing suit. The next in line came from my ex. I broke up with him, and after I made it very clear it wasn't going to happen, he wrote me an email about how he's hooking up with a girl who has "much bigger tits" than me. What I was told when I was 14 hurt my feelings, it's like others could see what I hoped was only an issue for me. What happened with my ex was mildly comical because my overall level of confidence was much higher.

I do think that hurtful remarks come from insecurity.