18-10-2012, 03:03
Amberd, I'm so sorry you are going through this!
I completely agree with Abidrew, both in that my first reaction is you should divorce him, but maybe it is better for everyone that you try counseling. If it is a great relationship otherwise, it might be worth saving. Forgiveness is always good, no matter if you end up staying in the relationship or not. But if he wants to stay in the relationship he definitely should have to work for it, either through going to counseling or gaining back your trust some other way.
Personally I would have my doubts about his character as well, if he sought "revenge" in that manner. It doesn't justify anything, nor does it speak well about his character no matter what the woman did to him, but this is just my personal opinion. But then again all people have low points...
I guess ultimately you have to decide if this is a good relationship you are in that is worth saving and if he is to be trusted now.
And I agree, guys can be such idiots.
I completely agree with Abidrew, both in that my first reaction is you should divorce him, but maybe it is better for everyone that you try counseling. If it is a great relationship otherwise, it might be worth saving. Forgiveness is always good, no matter if you end up staying in the relationship or not. But if he wants to stay in the relationship he definitely should have to work for it, either through going to counseling or gaining back your trust some other way.
Personally I would have my doubts about his character as well, if he sought "revenge" in that manner. It doesn't justify anything, nor does it speak well about his character no matter what the woman did to him, but this is just my personal opinion. But then again all people have low points...
I guess ultimately you have to decide if this is a good relationship you are in that is worth saving and if he is to be trusted now.
And I agree, guys can be such idiots.