19-10-2012, 23:48
I am sorry to hear about his pre-marital infidelity and the pain it is putting you through.
It sounds like he is maturing enough to let you know more of his weaknesses, mistakes and shortcomings. Most men hate to let women know where they are vulnerable. We all need to grow up in most areas of our lives and realize that nobody ever arrives at perfection.
You need to set him down and let him know how bad this has shaken your trust in him and that it will take years to regain it, if ever. He has two strikes and #3, he is out. Being a product of a broken home, I, personally, do not like divorce.
One key about forgiving someone else is that it's for YOU, not them. You forgive others to get the monkey off your back not theirs. They won't go around fretting about whether or not you've forgiven them, it is you who will be stewing if you don't...
It sounds like he is maturing enough to let you know more of his weaknesses, mistakes and shortcomings. Most men hate to let women know where they are vulnerable. We all need to grow up in most areas of our lives and realize that nobody ever arrives at perfection.
You need to set him down and let him know how bad this has shaken your trust in him and that it will take years to regain it, if ever. He has two strikes and #3, he is out. Being a product of a broken home, I, personally, do not like divorce.
One key about forgiving someone else is that it's for YOU, not them. You forgive others to get the monkey off your back not theirs. They won't go around fretting about whether or not you've forgiven them, it is you who will be stewing if you don't...