[AbiDrew85]

If you tell him you're working on it, 1) he'll have hope there where he originally was feeling torn, letting him put the issue behind him. When I began working out again, and even now (as my butt is still not big enough for him, lmao big greedy baby!) he was not worried or thinking about it because he knew I was "on my way" to "destination butt" lol. ALSO 2) he'll be so flattered at your willingness to care about his attraction to you. Most men are afraid of getting into relationships with or marrying women because of our stereotypical habit of letting ourselves go once we "have" our men. And physical attraction is very important for men, and I respect that to the degree I see that you respect it. Therefore, men get afraid of us not caring about our appearances, haha. Having a few "must haves" or "must not haves" is healthy and normal for anyone to have when it comes to attraction. I know that I am guilty of this myself.

Ugh. I have noticed that tendency among some girls... and I just can't understand it. I was so stupidly unhealthy previously only because I was just too damned depressed to care about much of anything, let alone my body.

I actually don't care too much about my guy's appearance as long as he takes some measure of care of himself. He can even be a bit heavy as long as he's not morbidly obese and appears to be putting in at least some effort to keep from ending up there.

He can have long hair, as long as he takes care of it, and if I start seeing more of him and find out he keeps a messy house... Yeah. Not happening. I get enough of that at home from my brother and the boarder.

Other than that... it's personality that I'm interested in... and these things tend to go along with the personality that attracts me anyways...

As for me... I've learned that my body can be very difficult to maintain, but maintaining it I will. For the rest of my life. I already did too much damage to it when I wasn't being myself.

And SENIO... I cannot stress enough that you HAVE to do this strictly and entirely for YOU. Otherwise you will lose interest, because it's hard, it's time-consuming, and it's expensive. And ain't no guy worth that. There's plenty of fish in that sea out there and there's bound to be one somewhere who'll be interested in YOU for YOU and won't care about ANY of the little things. Guys on the whole actually tend to be even less discriminating than women. I don't know ANY girl who'll get with just any body... But I've known guys who'd stick theirs in anything it'll fit into. I've had the.... pleasure.... of working with a couple of such.