[Babakins]

Oh no Anastasia I am sorry to hear this. And any of us will gladly listen to you vent if you ever need it.

I will repeat what most have already said. Get RID and yes you do deserve better much much better. Stop supporting his lazy backside. I might sound controversial here but I believe in traditional values and roles for men and women and he's not coming up to his responsibilities are a husband and for you no that DOES NOT mean be a doormat. He is lucky to have an emotionally and intellectually mature woman, it's because he's stunted in those areas that he cannot recognise this in you.

Of course I do not know the ins and outs and am making sweeping statements about him but with the evidence presented I think it's an accurate appraisal. Yes he has MANorexia by the sound of it. And a woman he wants to impress that he feels will stray if he is not thin.

Let him work through his phases but you know you won't be there.

As for the married guy, that's just your way of avoiding a commitment because you have been drawn to that in another. It's your subconscious's way for telling you to hold fire and take time out for yourself. Be gentle with yourself.

* hugs A and tells her how beautiful and well loved she is
Kins xxx