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Wow, Abs! How exciting! I am going to support the ladies' opinion above about telling him to thoroughly read your wall first-- and, hopefully, he won't be so hung up in his attraction for you that he actually will use his brain to actually read and understand what you have on your wall. However, I've had horn balls in the past who I asked (before I knew they were horn balls, of course) to learn more about me in various given ways, and when they are the horny kind, they do a great job at pretending that they followed through with learning more about me, just to check it off the list, but actually never really did... so watch out for that! But, I'm sure you already know this, as you said:

As I said before. Basically all my experience with guys says this is like 90% certain! And I was being a spy in their midst for over two decades! Part of what makes me so near paranoid cautious with guys is that I probably have a clearer understanding what they can be like than most other girls.

What a blessing, in that way, it can be to be in your shoes! Half the battle to dating is just trying to understand the other sex. At least you have experienced first-hand what most men wouldn't dare to ever do or say in front of a women. A blessing for you to have the knowledge, for knowledge is power, but also a curse... which is why this experience, which should be exciting for you, is more making you shit your pants! Personally, I would prefer to have the blessing and the curse that comes with the knowledge, because then you won't waste your time on some silly do-does because you can see right through them. I would love to be in your shoes in that respect. For some reason I attract all the bad boys and they do a really good job at appearing like good guys who are serious about me. I try to be very understanding as men see love and relationships differently than women, but I have a small suspicion that this tendency to be understanding could make me easily a victim of being taken advantage of. I wish I could see through bull shit with certainty!

Keep us updated on how this progresses! Hopefully he is cool about your past... And, if not, it's just not meant to be and he is not good enough for you!