(15-09-2013, 04:15)jamixoxo Wrote: When I lived with my parents, which was into my mid to late 20's, we generally knew where each other were... But this was in the bad old days before cell phones, but after the invention of the serial killer. Most of my peers had similar arrangements with their parents... No curfew, rarely a set "time" to be home, but usually a general idea on when you would, or would not be around. Of course, after years of curfews and asking permission this was a breath of fresh air!
When I had roommates, we did the same - but there was no "checking in".
My wife and I check in all the time... As did my previous SO's.
Kinda sounds like confirmation of your theory! Sometimes I hate being the product of conditioning.
-j
Yeah... That sounds a LOT like the arrangement I've ALWAYS had with my parents. They knew WHEN I was going to be out. They knew around about the time to expect me back. And that was all there was to it.
I'd been out to Uni for almost 2 years and RARELY even talked to them at all.
I lived out of the house for almost a year and only checked in once a week at MOST.
Now suddenly I need to start telling them EVERYTHING?!
If I was married or dating I MIGHT volunteer more about what I'm doing to my SO... but that'd just be because we're constantly texting back and forth anyways any chance either of us gets and just casually mention that kind of thing.
But as soon as I'm out of here next time, and next time will only be after I've got a solid foundation under me to do so, they'll be right back to rarely. Not even once a week. RARELY. If at all. More about that later.
I have never and I doubt I'll ever be one to check in CONSTANTLY. I just wasn't conditioned to it.
Though who knows... Maybe they'll win and successfully recondition me before I finally get free of them. Doubt it. They'd have to do some serious growing up before they have that much influence over me.
Don't get me wrong... I never much paid heed to my dad, I'll grant, but Mom used to be my quasi-God. She kinda ruined that when I started testing her on my coming out before actually coming out. And she's done NOTHING to earn back the least bit of credibility.
And if they DON'T start growing up and facing the fact of who I am they WILL lose me entirely. I don't have any use for fake people.
EDIT: And YES people, today was day 27 of my artificial cycle.
It'll only get worse!