[Jenniferlove]

Whew! This is a tough one! But we are not here to judge, just here to help. As a straight female like Tibetan I would definitely be hurt and upset, especially since you say she doesn't have the slightest idea of who you truly are inside. I would feel betrayed if after 20 years I didn't actually know you. I am probably a hyper-sensitive female though so I may not be the best example.

I know how hard this is for you and I am sorry. I am sorry that us humans must be created so complex and different from one another and that this world is so full of judgement. It makes everything so difficult.

I pray that this goes through smoothly for both of you. I would begin to slowly start introducing little hints of your true self, but be prepared that she most likely will not be okay with this. If you are a macho, masculine man like you say then that is the type she is attracted to and will probably be stunned to find out that deep inside you're the opposite.

I want you to be happy though, but naturally we would all want her to be happy too! Ah! What a tough one! Good luck! I guess that's the best I can say for now, and keep us posted!