[Outofstyle]

I'm still having troubles keeping a clear mind and focusing on the feeling. My mind always wants to wander or fret over the fact that I haven't had an O yet. By myself they can be really intense but with the guy I'm with I feel like I won't be fast enough, and I have troubles relaxing entirely because I have trust issues(?) and worry about pleasing him... Ughhh... They are getting more intense by myself though I guess that is progress. Relaxing is hard though..... it does help when I just focus on increasing my pleasure rather than on trying to have an orgasm. Any tips anyone?