(17-06-2014, 23:49)Jenniferlove Wrote: Ah k....I am beginning to see. I have known a lot of people like you. Are you Persian? I hear this is common from those families. It puts a lot of pressure on you unfortunately but the pushing will hopefully help you live out a beautiful and lucrative life.
Nope not Persian, but Arabs and Persians are very alike. Especially big families of political history and wealth. We all know each other and other similar families from other arab countries. Both my parents are from big families and different countries. They're families didn't approve of their marriage and it was such a big deal, both their parents wanted them to marry a relative or an uprising politician (for my mom) from her country. The good thing about this it's that it makes my parents quite open minded about the idea of me marrying someone that isn't from my country, since I've got 2 ethnicities, I've got more choices than most girls I know. I think that's the only downside to my situation is that I don't have as much freedom as you guys in choosing my partner.
Here's a fun fact, when someone proposes to a girl from my circle, the father asks the guy to give him a list of the name of 60 men related to him that can vouch for him. Then the father starts asking about all these men and their background. Then they can either approval or reject him because he's just not "like them".
So it's quite hard for me to meet someone with a similar mentality and interest that my family would immediately approve of (at the end of the day they want me to be happy so I know I can convince them). Most of the guys I know are just super materialistic and shallow.
Oh and obvious downside is that everyone is super curious about everyone and wants to know your every move! I constantly hear rumors about myself and friends, sometimes it's hurtful because we've got a reputation to maintain but oh well, all experiences in life help you grow.