[dreamergirl]

My breasts are the one thing holding me back.

Men ignore me. I have never been catcalled or had any man express any kind of sexual desire towards me in public. I am not the type of girl that men stop and stare at.

If I had large breasts I could be an 8/10, or even a 9/10 depending on the persons preferences. I would definitely be looked at and sexually appealing to those around me.

Realising this is so depressing... My breasts are the one thing that holds me back from being actually attractive.

[dreamergirl]

I made this thread for venting but I already regret it. I'm not trying to make the wrong impression.

I'm doing this for me because looking and feeling sexy and attractive would boost my confidence. This might sound extremely conflicting but I'm NOT trying to attract men, I just want to not feel like a worthless piece of trash in mens eyes and to be noticed when I enter a room. Being invisible has worn down my confidence over my lifetime.

[Bustyprincess]

I made this thread for venting but I already regret it. I'm not trying to make the wrong impression.

I'm doing this for me because looking and feeling sexy and attractive would boost my confidence. This might sound extremely conflicting but I'm NOT trying to attract men, I just want to not feel like a worthless piece of trash in mens eyes and to be noticed when I enter a room. Being invisible has worn down my confidence over my lifetime.

Ive seen quite a few of your threads and want to let you know from someone with body dysmorphia tendencies plus gender dysphoria I feel you and you are not alone in struggling seriously with body confidence and self image issues.... I want you to know that boobs literally are not the be all end all of attractiveness and sexiness, before I got my boobs done and grew my boobs even bigger men never failed to stop and stare at me and I was a VERY skinny underweight girl with A cups at that time,  just as there are men that like big boobs or big girls there are men that love little boobs, skinny girls or even men who have no interest in boobs at all but are what they call butt guys lol remember that what you may think isnt always the case Im positive there have been men that have caught you in their eye and thought you were attractive for every girl there is a guy out there trust me. If all else fails and NBE is something you dont want to wait for there is always the option of Fat transfer or implants and as someone that actually has experience with them unlike the many women out there who go on about false statements of "high" complication rates I can vouch and tell you the rate is VERY low and replacing them every 10 years isnt a real thing my PS says its only if its needed and something is wrong his wife has had hers for 20+ years. Anyways hang in there I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone I used to think no one would want me for anything serious now here I am 5+ years with my fiance/bf

[Happyme]

Thanks Busty,

Couldn't have said it better myself!

Huggs to both of you

Bobbi

[dreamergirl]

I made this thread for venting but I already regret it. I'm not trying to make the wrong impression.

I'm doing this for me because looking and feeling sexy and attractive would boost my confidence. This might sound extremely conflicting but I'm NOT trying to attract men, I just want to not feel like a worthless piece of trash in mens eyes and to be noticed when I enter a room. Being invisible has worn down my confidence over my lifetime.

Ive seen quite a few of your threads and want to let you know from someone with body dysmorphia tendencies plus gender dysphoria I feel you and you are not alone in struggling seriously with body confidence and self image issues.... I want you to know that boobs literally are not the be all end all of attractiveness and sexiness, before I got my boobs done and grew my boobs even bigger men never failed to stop and stare at me and I was a VERY skinny underweight girl with A cups at that time,  just as there are men that like big boobs or big girls there are men that love little boobs, skinny girls or even men who have no interest in boobs at all but are what they call butt guys lol remember that what you may think isnt always the case Im positive there have been men that have caught you in their eye and thought you were attractive for every girl there is a guy out there trust me. If all else fails and NBE is something you dont want to wait for there is always the option of Fat transfer or implants and as someone that actually has experience with them unlike the many women out there who go on about false statements of "high" complication rates I can vouch and tell you the rate is VERY low and replacing them every 10 years isnt a real thing my PS says its only if its needed and something is wrong his wife has had hers for 20+ years. Anyways hang in there I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone I used to think no one would want me for anything serious now here I am 5+ years with my fiance/bf " alt="" title="">

Thank you I'm glad you were able to prove your fears wrong and actually I have heard a lot of good things about fat transfer on this site so I would consider it before implants.

[Wannabe]

Oh, dreamergirl. You've got issues, but I don't think your breast size is the central cause of them. I'm a genetic male. While an obviously busty woman in a provocative garment might catch the eye, I have to say most of the time when I'm out in public I don't particularly notice a woman's breast size. Most everyone has some feature that calls more attention than others-- a hairstyle, type of clothing or something, or, maybe, some physical trait. In social situations it's often the way a woman's personality project that calls attention to her. In other words, there are at least a dozen characteristics that can call attention to a woman-- not just breast size. It's really not that hard to call attention to yourself.

In fact, in my experience the kind of guys who most easily notice breast size are the jerks you'd be better off not meeting anyway. But if you want to find out what it's like, just order a pair of those cheap bra fillers on eBay, stuff them into a larger bra and wear a sweater. See if life suddenly becomes better for you. Personally, I suspect that your poor self image has a deeper core that's working against you. Changing your breasts might help things for awhile, but your biggest change needs to start in your head.

[dreamergirl]

Oh, dreamergirl. You've got issues, but I don't think your breast size is the central cause of them. I'm a genetic male. While an obviously busty woman in a provocative garment might catch the eye, I have to say most of the time when I'm out in public I don't particularly notice a woman's breast size. Most everyone has some feature that calls more attention than others-- a hairstyle, type of clothing or something, or, maybe, some physical trait. In social situations it's often the way a woman's personality project that calls attention to her. In other words, there are at least a dozen characteristics that can call attention to a woman-- not just breast size. It's really not that hard to call attention to yourself.

In fact, in my experience the kind of guys who most easily notice breast size are the jerks you'd be better off not meeting anyway. But if you want to find out what it's like, just order a pair of those cheap bra fillers on eBay, stuff them into a larger bra and wear a sweater. See if life suddenly becomes better for you. Personally, I suspect that your poor self image has a deeper core that's working against you. Changing your breasts might help things for awhile, but your biggest change needs to start in your head.

Thank you for this message. It's good to know that not everybody looks for the same thing and my fixation on breasts probably DOES exceed most males. But I have felt sexually invisible for my whole life, and it's not because I'm ugly/plain (except my breasts) or I dress badly.

If nobody looks at me that way and society on a whole associates breasts with sexuality... I think that men see me as a romantic partner potential, but not "she has a hot body and I'm sexually attracted to her"... it kind of stings to be a "personality" kind of girl. Anybody who doesn't adore my body is not worth my time of day.

Actually, I have done the latter, and can confirm that people treat me way better and give me more positive attention/compliments when I appear to have a larger chest. I haven't gone all out with huge fillers, but I have increased my breast size by 2 or maybe 3 cups (still kind of modestly sized because my frame is small!) this way. I think my theory has some weight to it, being more attractive in general gets you treated better.

[surferjoe2007]

I think it’s a difficult topic because the real answer is somewhere part way in between the extremes.  So if someone tells you boobs don’t really matter and you know that isn’t true, it’s tempting to go to the other extreme which is more wrong.  The truth is they matter, but less than many other things.  And everyone male and female has different preferences.  But generally people like to see or have some boobs, most enjoy seeing any size as long as they’re there (even a revealing outfit on A/B cup gets lots of  attention), but also most care more about other things.  I think the key is to likewise prioritize multiple more important things but still spend a little time on boobs: whether nbe or just outfits that show them off or make them seem larger.  But prioritize work, school, charity, fun, dating if you plan on it (including before nbe progress), etc.

[Bustyprincess]

I think it’s a difficult topic because the real answer is somewhere part way in between the extremes.  So if someone tells you boobs don’t really matter and you know that isn’t true, it’s tempting to go to the other extreme which is more wrong.  The truth is they matter, but less than many other things.  And everyone male and female has different preferences.  But generally people like to see or have some boobs, most enjoy seeing any size as long as they’re there (even a revealing outfit on A/B cup gets lots of  attention), but also most care more about other things.  I think the key is to likewise prioritize multiple more important things but still spend a little time on boobs: whether nbe or just outfits that show them off or make them seem larger.  But prioritize work, school, charity, fun, dating if you plan on it (including before nbe progress), etc.

Im sorry but I sorta feel it wrong of you as just a straight cis male to be telling this girl that clearly struggles with major body issues and BDD that she "SHOULD focus on her breasts" SHOULD "focus on nbe" and that "breasts do matter" when clearly she needs to be focusing on her mental wellbeing first and foremost, as you are a straight male saying this it is coming off very sexist inclined and with no interest into her true wellbeing. Just MO. Yes big boobs are great I love mine but they are pointless if your mental health is suffering and also a woman is A LOT more than a pair of breasts.

[ShelaVenna]

I think it’s a difficult topic because the real answer is somewhere part way in between the extremes.  So if someone tells you boobs don’t really matter and you know that isn’t true, it’s tempting to go to the other extreme which is more wrong.  The truth is they matter, but less than many other things.  And everyone male and female has different preferences.  But generally people like to see or have some boobs, most enjoy seeing any size as long as they’re there (even a revealing outfit on A/B cup gets lots of  attention), but also most care more about other things.  I think the key is to likewise prioritize multiple more important things but still spend a little time on boobs: whether nbe or just outfits that show them off or make them seem larger.  But prioritize work, school, charity, fun, dating if you plan on it (including before nbe progress), etc.

Im sorry but I sorta feel it wrong of you as just a straight cis male to be telling this girl that clearly struggles with major body issues and BDD that she "SHOULD focus on her breasts" SHOULD "focus on nbe" and that "breasts do matter" when clearly she needs to be focusing on her mental wellbeing first and foremost, as you are a straight male saying this it is coming off very sexist inclined and with no interest into her true wellbeing. Just MO. Yes big boobs are great I love mine but they are pointless if your mental health is suffering and also a woman is A LOT more than a pair of breasts.

I don’t want to get sucked into an argument that doesn’t even involve me, but I think he was very careful about what he said. I agree with what he said and I’m a woman. Why should it matter which one of us said it? I don’t really like my appearance but I don’t have body dysmorphia, so I can’t help her as much as someone who has actually overcome it. We are all just trying to help because she seems so distressed. Maybe we’re going about in the wrong way, but we are not psychologists.